Apparently, my goal is to be a child abuser

 I brought my mother to Jesus. I came out to my parents 5 years ago this month. My mom ran to the church and even got involved in a local ex-gay ministry. She has been to the national Exodus conference and Love Won Out. Needless to say, our relationship has been strained ever since. 

My partner and I have been together for over 5 years now and we want to have kids. We have started jumping through all the hoops to be approved for adoption. We are excited. The only thing that has been hanging over my head is letting my parents in on it. 

It finally happened last week. My mom was talking to me about how disappointed she is that my dad does not go to church with her and how she is disapointed because I do not encourage her in her church-going. I took the opportunity to tell her why. (For the record, I am not confrontational so I do not know what got into me). I told her that it was hard for me to be excited for her when she is involved in something that tells her that something is wrong with me and I need to change. That, of course, led to trying to lecture me about the Bible. 

I told her that I am happy and with the person I want to get old with and build a family with. She informed me that she hopes that will never happen. We got off the phone. 

She called back a little later and had left work because she was so upset. She asked if we were pursing adoption and I said we were. She then informed me that they would never have anything to do with our children and that us adopting would be child abuse. Wow. Child abuse. WTF. 

I talked to my dad a couple of days later and he agreed with her that what we are doing is wrong and whatever children we adopt will never be his grandchildren.  

I think we have finally reached the breaking point in our relationship. 

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