Scott Lively

Anti-LGBT activist Scott Lively has revealed in his new blog post “The Bi-Sexual Turd in the Gay Wedding Punchbowl” that he does not understand what is means to be bisexual.

Mr. Lively believes bisexuality to be synonymous with non-monogamy or polyamory.  He is sorely incorrect.

A bisexual person is open to having a relationship with a person regardless of that person’s sex, while a heterosexual person will only have a relationship with a person of the opposite sex and a gay or lesbian person will only have a relationship with a person of their own sex.

Sexual orientation, whether heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian or gay, has nothing to do with the number of concurrent mates a person may wish to have.

Mr. Lively illustrates his misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual in his blog post:

A bi-sexual marriage would require an absolute minimum of four people.  You’d have same sex partners A and B just like in the “gay marriage,” but you’d also need to have a heterosexual partner for both A and B.

You couldn’t get by with the same heterosexual partner for both A and B since that would mean Partner C wasn’t really a bi-sexual, but a polygamous heterosexual. (And we all know from “gay” activist rhetoric that polygamy can’t be a true sexual orientation.  There’s never been a  P in LGBT!)

So, for example. Male Bisexual Partner A would be partners with both Male Bisexual Partner B and Female Bisexual Partner C, While Male Bi-Sexual Partner B would be partners with Male Bi-sexual Partner A and Female Bi-Sexual Partner D.

It would be tempting to simply laugh and walk away muttering “ignoramus” after reading Mr. Lively’s blog post if his wasn’t a very common misconception about bisexuality.

I’ve had the privilege of speaking to hundreds of school and college kids over the years about sexual orientation and gender identity.  During those discussions I’ve learned that bisexuals are frequently the most misunderstood subpopulation of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community.  The misconception that bisexuals wish to have a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time is, unfortunately, all too common.

For this reason I’m happy to turn Mr. Lively’s blog post into a teachable moment.  I hope that others can learn from his show of ignorance.