This hideously bad video is by former Family Research Council intern Anna Maria Hoffman and she wants us to “stop the hate” of those who support so-called traditional marriage. Though it was excruciating to watch, especially the couple of seconds (Girlfriend can’t sing. Not a lick!), her attempt to outline the point of view of those on her side of the marriage equality argument actually helps us.
Not because of what she says, via bad cue card reading, but because of her tone, how she misdirects the argument, and what she omits.
1. Tone – Ms. Hoffman whines about that those on her side of the argument are unfairly attacked, yet she makes it seem that those of who support marriage equality are doing it because it’s a “trendy” thing to do. To the vast majority of us, gaining marriage equality is not like going to the new club or attempting a new dance. We have a desire to affirm our love and see our families protected as all Americans do.
2. Misdirects – Hoffman lists an entire set of reasons why so-called traditional marriage is in danger such as the rate of divorce and households without a father. However, none of the reasons she lists has anything to do with gays and lesbians getting married. Nor does she say how allowing gays and lesbians to get married would exacerbate these problems.
3. Omission – Finally, Hoffman seems to be taking a page from the Maggie Gallagher book of “Whine about being called bigots to cover up how bigoted our tactics are.” She goes on a spiel about how unfair it is that those like her are labeled as “bigots” simply because they support so-called traditional marriage. Is she serious? Was Hoffman asleep during her entire tenure at the Family Research Council? Hoffman seems to conveniently omit the many, many times her organization has demonized gays, labeled us as the “dangerous other,” and expressed desires that we be either deported from the country or put in jail. And that doesn’t even begin to cover the cherry-picked studies the Family Research Council uses against us.
Hoffman is unfortunately indicative of religious right group employees and spokespeople. They want to claim victimhood for being called bigots while at the same time spewing their bigotry.
You simply cannot have it both ways.