“Every time we make love…we’re making life…giving life…It’s not just sex…I come alive, and there’s a sense of forever in that.”
That’s the declaration from married hetero couple Josh and Carrie from the Viewer’s Guide for the video “Made for Each Other,” put out by “Marriage Unique for a Reason.”
The effort is yet another a gag-worthy reminder of the hypocrisy of the anti-gay faction when they talk about TEH GAY shoving their “lifestyles” down society’s throat. My TMI meter was off the charts for me with this tripe.
In the video, married couple Josh and Carrie reflect on the meaning of sexual difference. Each section of the Viewer’s Guide takes a quote from either Josh or Carrie and fleshes it out. The goal of the Viewer’s Guide is to help you, the reader, become more confident in promoting and defending the meaning of marriage as the union of one man and one woman.
This is part 7 of the series, and we’ll reflect on what it means that married love is unitive and procreative, and also look at the deeper meaning of sex and the good of friendship.
While not every husband may put into words what Josh expressed, Josh is speaking about more than just personal experience. He’s getting at the deeper meaning of sex, of conjugal love, the love between husband and wife. The unique bond of spousal love is itself life-giving. This is what the Church means by the inseparability of the unitive and procreative aspects of the conjugal act.
Really, is this necessary?! Are same-sex relationships meaningless? Apparently the state of heterosexual marriage is so under fire that it comes down to pimping procreation couched in P-I-V sexual relations.
This is why sexual difference is essential to marriage. Sexual difference is the necessary starting point for understanding why protecting and promoting marriage as the union of one man and one woman isn’t arbitrary or discriminatory. Rather, it’s a matter of justice, truth, love, and real freedom. Only a man and a woman—at every level of their identity: biological, physiological, emotional, social, spiritual—are capable of authentically speaking the language of married love, that is, the language of total self-gift, open to the gift of the other and the gift of life.
If these folks want to be consistent, then every time Josh and Carrie boink they are trying to procreate and of course that means no birth control. Is that the experience of most heterosexual couples? What about post-menopausal women? How do they fit into the equation, or couples more interested in sane family planning? How do they fit into this picture perfect erotic sacred bonding? It sounds like as long as husband and wife keep on intending to procreate regardless of any other circumstances, such as infertility, they are in the clear – just don’t have sex for pleasure only.
Spouses’ sexual activity brings them closer together, and may result in a child whom they both love. The child is equally the child of both husband and wife, now father and mother. And when these elements are together and respected, the child is welcomed as a gift. Also, as expressed by Josh and Carrie in their openness to life, married love is still called to be fruitful even without the blessing of a child.
…The modern world teaches that we can have sex without babies, have babies without sex, and have either without any connection with one’s husband or wife. The modern world considers these legitimate expressions of our independence and freedom.
This downgrading of the sexual act to immediate pleasure, rather than the true and complete union of two persons, man and woman, has gone hand in hand with the increasing isolation between men and women.
The whole thing just weirded me out; I really don’t need to know what Josh and Carrie are doing in the bedroom or from the chandelier with God’s blessing. It’s their own business. Just butt out of the business of trying to deny my civil rights and humanity.