I’m so glad Leah McElrath was enthusiastic about cross-posting her piece on Huff Po here on the Blend because it hits so many spot-on points about the Akin dustup that weren’t seeing the light of day. The fact is, too many Americans of the male persuasion have no clue about the female body, and it should be no surprise that the mind-blowing ignorance of Rep. Akin was on full display when he opened his trap about “legitimate rape” — and the miraculous ability of women to somehow spontaneously abort a rapist- fertilized egg in their wombs. The stunning level of ignorance was breathtaking. Did he not take basic biology? The bottom line is that too many men like Akin don’t respect women enough to educate themselves about our bodies before attempting to legislate how we use them.
The harsh reality is our culture teaches and supports ignorance about women’s bodies. Akin’s remark about victims of “legitimate rape” having a way to “shut that whole thing down” is most disturbing because he’s not alone in his ignorance.
Of course, his remarks are also disturbing because they reflect the existence of rape culture in America. They illustrate the perspective there is a distinction between different “types” of rapes: the use of “legitimate” directly implies there are “illegitimate” rapes. As such, the remarks cast automatic doubt upon a woman who reports a rape. But many people are talking about his remarks within the framework of rape and reproductive freedom.
I want to talk about something else. Akin’s remark also illustrates something the news media are not exploring effectively: the absolutely stunning level of ignorance about women’s bodies and how our bodies function.
Why does such ignorance exists? Why does a woman as powerful as Oprah feel compelled to refer to a vulva using an immature euphemism? Why, even when people attempt to use accurate terminology, do they use “vagina” instead of vulva? Why? Because we have a culture in which women’s bodies are relevant only in relation to how they are connected (literally in this case) to men’s. We use “vagina” because that’s where men’s penises enter. It’s that simple.
However, that simplicity has profound impact on our culture. We teach little girls and little boys incorrect information about girls’ bodies. We emphasize the vagina, which leaves girls who grow into young women ignorant of the entire structure and functioning of the majority of their genitalia.
It doesn’t affect just young women, either. As a psychotherapist, I’ve met intelligent, educated married men who believed that their wives urinated from their vaginas. I’ve also met intelligent, educated women who have never even looked at their own genitals and who certainly didn’t know the accurate terminology for the various parts or for the whole.
Perhaps you yourself are even unaware of accurate terms for a woman’s genitals. If so, let’s fix that deficit in your knowledge now:
Vulva — The inclusive term for a woman’s external genital organs, including her labia minora and labia majora (inner lips and outer lips, respectively), her clitoris, her urethra and the external opening of her vagina.
Vagina — Secret powerful dark cave with teeth inside, capable of biting off men’s penises and preventing sperm from “legitimate” rape from reaching the egg.
Just kidding.
Vagina — The muscular tube leading to the cervix of a woman’s uterus and connected to muscles that make up her pelvic floor. A vagina is a potential space. It is not an open tube that remains open at all times, but rather a sheath that largely closes upon itself except during sexual activity, childbirth or, on occasion, certain physical activities. An example of when is yoga involving positions stretching a woman’s legs and torso. This sometimes resulting in the vagina opening a bit, air entering, then air being expelled when the woman changes position. This process is notoriously referred to as “vaginal fart” or “queef” (although what is expelled is air only, not gaseous waste as is the case in anal farts).
Clitoris — Nerve and erectile tissue located at the junction of the labia minora and inclusive of both the glans (or head) of the clitoris and the nerves that extend down inside the woman’s labia. The glans of the clitoris contains more nerve endings than any other part of the human body and is covered by a triangular-shaped sheath or hood of protective skin. Women’s clitorises vary in size, but the glans of a woman’s clitoris is generally the size of a small, medium or large pea.
Urethra — The small opening located between the clitoris and the vagina. The urethra is the outer opening of the ureter, the tube which extends to the woman’s bladder and through which urine is passed.
Now you know this information — do your part to change our culture and pass it forward.
I’ve stopped with a description of women’s genitalia only. If there is positive response to this article and a desire for information about a woman’s reproductive organs and the reproductive process, I’d be happy to write a follow up. Let me know in your comments.
Leah is a Managing Partner with the communications-consulting firm Renna Communications and a professional psychotherapist with a Master of Social Work degree from the Smith College School for Social Work. She has authored and contributed to the production of materials published both under her own name and for attribution to others in the New York Times Magazine, USA Today, the New York Daily News, AM New York, the Philadelphia Inquirer, the Advocate.com, Gay.com, Time.com and other media outlets.




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[snark] But…but….isn’t this what every boy learns (from their friends) in Jr. High School ?[/snark]
This what happens when you do not have a good sex education curriculum in school. Or anywhere else for that matter.
Our culture??? Nope I never picked up Akin’s ideas from our culture this is Fundy Science talking lets try not to blame America ok:)
They force one to draw the conclusion if you buy their *cough * science that Women who get pregnant fro rape must have enjoyed it because their bodies accepted the sperm.
This means if a Woman gets pregnant from rape she deep down wants the baby. This is the rape defense she asked for it by dressing like a slut taken to the next level.
Let’s face it, “our culture” has coddled the Chreeeeeestian right. We’ve carved out exemptions in taxes, in their workplace, in their schooling allowing them to teach whatever the Hades they want and helping fund it and spread it through “faith based initiatives” and lack of regulation regarding their tax exempt status and their ability to inflict their morality on others. I wish I could say we weren’t responsible but I have to call it like I see it.
I would only add that those who seek to usurp the power of a woman over her own body seem to lose interest in the baby once it is born. All this fuss about protecting a blastula and gastrula but none at all about the baby .
So very sad.
Hell, some men still beat the women in their lives for failing to conceive sons. Apart from the fact that it is the male that determines the sex of the child, that is just so wrong on many more levels.
A story from my home state of Michigan, which has the most under-reported Republican wingnuts. Lisa Brown, a Democratic state representative, was barred from speaking on the House floor for having dared to utter the V-word during debate on–get this–abortion restrictions.
My state is becoming Mississippi with more snow and better basketball.
And despite all the damage that has resulted from kowtowing to evangelical Christians, Democratic Party strategists remain willing to throw women overboard in a vain effort to persuade the mythical “swing voter” to vote Democratic.
Our political leadership has done this but in popular culture books, tv etc only Christian and Right Wing Nuts spout this garbage.
I must admit I have never heard Akin’s theory until today and I surf the net, read and watch tv as much as anyone.
Logically shouldn’t the Woman beat the Man for failing to father sons if he controls the sex of the child?
I think the Right’s problem is they pretend to have science that backs up their desires. I think they see us as an Outgroup who opposes them at every turn and thus they think we act like them and use science to oppose them.
If they cannot realize they are acting from selfish childlike urges and are never corrected about their bad logic well sloppy thinking in one area breeds sloppy thinking in other areas of life as well.
The question the Press won’t ask Rep Ryan is does he still support anti abortion bills that would force a woman who is raped to have the rapists baby?
I have not seen Ann Romney get anywhere near this issue even though she is Mitt’s advisor on Women’s issues.
I wonder if Ann told Mitt there were somethings even she would not do to make Mitt President.
I feel relatively certain that Mrs. Romney has been given STFU orders.
Of course, I could be wrong.
I don’t think most men know that. When are we suposed to determine that????? Is there a form????
The “lady parts’ aren’t the only areas of a woman’s body that are ignored by culture and esp medicine.
The misogyny goes so deep that a woman may well die of a heart attack because the symptoms are so different than men’s.
Most studies of disease focus solely on the male body and if you (Gods forbid0 get a condition/disease/disorder that affect mostly women, you’re pretty much SOL. Because the research will not be done…….esp if the misogyny of the evangelical right embodied in R/R attains the presidency.
I keep thinking beautiful thoughts towards the Republicans to go ahead and have their convention in the teeth of Isaac. Talk about being blown away.
No bleeding heart Lib here!
I think it goes deeper than that. They regard science as open to interpretation and on an equal or lesser par with opinion, when the truth is that science seeks the truth and ruthlessly weeds out unsupportable ideas. I really think that’s their problem with science in general: they can’t live with the fact that their opinions are just not relevant to scientific truth. They think science ought to make allowances for things like faith and agendas.
Rep Ryan’s views on abortion are the same as Akin’s is Mitt going to claim he did not vet Ryan on his abortion views?
In november the GOP will have a hard time explaining why Mitt lost when unemployment numbers are so high no President has ever won reelection with these numbers.
Given Obama has done nothing to fight back on a number of issues Mitt’s mistakes will be the reason Obama wins.
Right now the GOP war on Women/the abortion issue very well might trump Mitt’s tax returns and Mitt’s horrible public speaking skills as reasons why he lost.
The GOP’s problem for the next election is Bush and Mitt have discredited Corporate GOPer ideas to the fundies.
However Fundy ideas are so unpopular you can’t win a general election running on them.
So the question is what can the GOP rally around as their new ideas besides Obama is Black?
Sex is determined by an X, (for a girl), or a Y, (for a boy), chromosome that is delivered by the sperm. Men produce both while the egg always has the X chromosome. XX gets you a girl while XY gets you a boy. You don’t know this? This is like sexual reproduction 101!
No, apparently, he’s flipped on that for now:
Paul Ryan Responds To Todd Akin, Clarifies Abortion Position: ‘Rape Is Rape’
Paully want a cracker????? That’s what Obama said yesterday
You paint a pretty bleak picture for Romney/Ryan and the GOP.
I’m sorry. I really can’t contain my enthusiasm. It couldn’t happen to a more deserving bunch of despicable, lying bastards.
No I agree
I don’t see just what Ann could say that could help Mitt on this issue right now. But I think she could easily make things worse.
So no form????? Well that’s good news.
Like saying, “You people should not be discussing things that make my husband’s running mate look like a misogynist.”
We need a thread to discuss this but yes the GOP are relativists when talking about science, the economy the bible they cherry pick or invent whole cloth what they want to hear.
But when confronted by facts suddenly they declare the facts proving them wrong just opinions.
Nature, Nurture as to why would be a thread all by itself.
You’ll let Margaret know that my tongue is always pressed firmly in cheek????
No forms. No remembering your Grandmother’s maiden name or the year your first pet died. Nothing like that.
Sorry. I misinterpreted your comment. I thought it must be tongue in cheek at first but upon re-reading it, you seemed so sincere. Communication by text only has it’s drawbacks.
Thanks for that. As it so happens, my wife and I had a son. Which is what we both wanted. That was so long ago, you had to wait for the baby to come out and check for , well , you know.
Not a problem. At the risk of being immodest, I am very good at what I do. I’m here most every day. Be sure to tip your waitesss.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/22/paul-ryan-todd-akin-abortion_n_1821284.html
Ryan says Rape is Rape in the article but his antiabortion record which he claims he is still proud of would try to redefine rape and make abortion harder or impossible after rape. I think Ryan is pretending to flip flop but he has not really flip flopped yet.
Actually, that was pretty good on your part.
Lennie…….my grandmother’s maiden name was Lennie. Just for the record.
Should we get him his own etch-a-sketch???????
Check THIS out:
Raped, pregnant and ordeal not over
All sorts of cucharaches crawling out of the wood after Akin
Belle Barth told a joke (“This next joke’s a little risque…”) about the groom on his wedding night refusing to make love for that reason above, so his bride says “You’re crazy!” and lets him take a look, adding, “see, there’s no teeth”. And he goes, “How can you have teeth with gums like that?’
But South African women have come up with a real device that gives the old Freudian fears validity. It’s called Rapex.
Look it up.
I can see the commercial now:
“Listen when she says “NO” because you never know!”
If you want to scare an uber Christian Right Winger, just ask him if he wants to see your vagina or your vulva. They hate both those words. They don’t want to give any recognition that women are different than men but they sure want to control your wombs. But they don’t want to talk about how they get to your wombs.
Akins stupid remarks come from the old hogwash we all heard as kids in the 60s. You can’t get pregnant unless you have an orgasm. If you have an orgsm that means you likes it. SO, it wasn’t rape. It is stupid and you would expect a Congressman to be better educated, but since it is a convenient way for men to believe the old “she really wanted it” crap, I guess it is still out there.
Yes, Democrats know better than to say certain things.
Bottom line, though, did freedom of choice increase, decrease or stay the same across the nation during President Obama’s first term or the years 2007-2011, when Congress was under Democratic control?
He says he wanted to say “forcible rape”, which is kind of a legal distinction that exists. The other kind of rape is statutory rape which can be consensual on the face of it (for example a teacher sleeping with a student), but still classified as rape because the victims are deemed to young and/or immature to give informed consent. I’m starting to think it would be better if that crime were called something like “sexual abuse of minors” like in many other countries.