Ah, Twitter is just a gold mine of uncensored thought. Of course those who “open their mouths” on the social network seem to be oblivious to the fact that a lot of people, not just those in their inner circle, can read your Tweets unless you restrict your account.
Take the ramblings of freshman N.C. State University basketball player CJ Leslie, who hails from Holly Springs and is a graduate of Word of God HS. (Hat tip NCSU student Evan Garris ):
Sadly, his peeps were unready to accept the foul.
Um. The context is clear. This young man probably represents the common views of masculinity and sexuality in HS basketball – and that means a lot to learn and fear to address.
Even though he may already be playing alongside, undressing, and showering around a gay man already, CJ wants an atmosphere of don’t ask, don’t tell to address his own discomfort. (CJ, if a gay teammate wanted to take a pass at you, it surely would have been done already. Chill out.) If you’re pro-equality, it shouldn’t matter what the sexual orientation of your teammate is — in or outside of the locker room. It’s anti-gay to want someone — a potential teammate — to hide something about themselves that you never have to.
Presumed heterosexuality — and the privilege that comes with it, is worthy of open discussion so we all can move past statements like those “innocently” tweeted. CJ – racist or anti-Semitic comments are not considered in contemporary society to be acceptable; why should homophobic statements?
Ironically, John Amaechi wrote about the climate in pro basketball in “Man in the Middle;” and in fact the NBA and GLAAD recently addressed the issue of Kobe Bryant’s gay slur during a game. John wrote a compelling op-ed in the NYT as well.
CJ doesn’t have the role-model responsibilities upon his shoulders as an NBA player has, and this serves more as a cautionary tale rather than the need for a battering ram. While GLAAD can’t address every issue like this, it shows that the real work related to tolerance and acceptance of gays in team sports really has to start earlier – when the slurs and fears start to appear.
NOTE: And in case any NC basketball fans think this is some kind of slam against NCSU — I’m not even a basketball fan. Triangle rivalries don’t mean anything to me. For all we know, players on other teams may have the very same locker room issues that need to be addressed through outreach.





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Word of God HS???He’s just parroting what his teachers taught him in that fundamentalist diploma mill. He’ll either learn how it is in the real world, or he’ll go down in flames.
how does one come across the twitter ramblings of a local HS basketball player?Who would have ever thought to “follow” this kid? Or, is there some kind of twitter search function that allows you to search through all of twitterdom looking for words like fag?
well he’s not in HSHe’s attending NCSU and ESPN and basketball pros are already prospecting him. A fellow student brought the Tweets to my attention.
He’s in a university team…and his twitter was pointed out by someone else attending that university (possibly a basketball fan) who took it to someone who they thought could use it.
I don’t understand why you’d think this to be unusual.
but i thought that all basketball players were gay.I was sure that was part of the whole thing.
probably because I don’t “tweet”and am always surprised by how some of the tweets of relatively “unknown” people go viral.
I’m also surprised at how many people are apparently not too worried about security and leave their facebook accounts and twitter accounts open for all to see.
I’m not complaining, just was interested to find out how this got noticed.
Maybe he’s just afraid… of learning that the boys don’t want to sleep with him either.
Although I wouldn’t discount the four years (at least) of Talibangelical brainwashing he no doubt got at “Word of God” high “school.”
All……the ones I’ve slept with were!
Amaechi responds and more
http://outsports.com/jocktalkb…
Also, it defies belief that student athletes in the Triangle (NC) or ACC schools haven’t had a discussion about social media.
The UNC football program’s recent NCAA investigation basically started with a player’s tweet.
More response from the campus student paper:
http://www.technicianonline.co…
Um, wait…Something is wrong with this guy saying he feels uncomfortable with gays in the locker room? I’m sorry. What about that is homophobic or disrespectful to gays?
Sounds to me like it’s an excellent opportunity for dialogue and not attacks or Pam House Blend’s National Enquirer treatment of the deal.
Hell, before I started working out I felt uncomfortable being naked in the locker room with gay men. Does that make me a fag hater and fundamentalist, too?
Pam you need to quit.
Nice tryYou always show up to take a crap on the Blend. I really don’t give a rip, but in no way is that tweet not homophobic. No, it’s not violent or hateful, but it is ignorant, and my post is not condemning, just pointing out the facts and the need for outreach and discussion much earlier than once players get to the NBA.
Nothing about it is National Enquirer treatment. Piss off.
I’m not sayin i hate homophobes, but that’s sumthing I that would not wnt n my planetI’m no anti homophobe But I would rather not have a homophobe in the world.
So what do you want here, Pam?What’s the goal of this exercise. Do you want this kid to lose his position on the team? His scholarship, if he is on one? Any chances at professional success? What DO YOU WANT FROM THIS KID?
And why do you care so much? Why invest all of this energy in an exercise that could possibly see yet another Black kid lose any chance of upward mobility.
He is not Kobe. Perhaps his twitter words were inappropriate, but far more inappropriate is the on-going witch hunt and lynch-fest you and your site promote against Black men.
You know this will now go viral; the Gaykkers over at towleroad and JMG will whip it into a frenzy that could have serious implications for this kid FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE — a kid who probably doesn’t have some rich white daddy to make a call and make it all go away.
You care so much about his “homophobic” intent; why not reach out to him PERSON-TO-PERSON and engage him, challenge him, demand he become a better person?
Gay people, Black people, trans-people — they all have REAL enemies out there. This kid is not one of them. Why don’t you man-up, Pam — and take our REAL enemies on!
The ignorance just drips – even beyond the homophobic, the academic requirementshave apparently been lowered to allow the guy on the team from some of the spelling (beyond the normal texting shorthand).
Just proves the point that when you accept mediocre instead of holding out for higher standards, the result is going to be mediocre as well. But hey, Go Team, right?
Who cares if a college diploma is supposed to indicate that you might know the difference between to, too and two? It’s from a ‘winning’ school…
Additionally…You say:
While GLAAD can’t address every issue like this, it shows that the real work related to tolerance and acceptance of gays in team sports really has to start earlier – when the slurs and fears start to appear.
Excellent point. So why don’t your DO THAT WORK, instead of hiding behind a computer screen whipping up what could very likely result in yet another fuck-the-niggerfest racist frenzy.
You are in a position of power, Pam. Rarely have I ever seen someone take that role so irresponsibly.
Please!!!! What absolute drivel. Your post are racist also. Somehow a black college basketball player makes a homophobic statement and somehow it’s a racial frenzy. Maybe you missed the posts about the hockey agent who was white who made disparaging remarks about Sean Avery for supporting SSM. Pointing out homophobic slurs has no color and those who turn it into a race thing whether you or those on the opposite are wrong. Homophobia like racism must be confronted and someone doesn’t get a free pass regardless of skin color.
Get off the crack pipeNo, people like John Amaechi are the ones with power on this particular issue. He’s lived the experience and can deliver the message of CJ’s misstep with authenticity and authority.
Blaming me for drawing attention to this young man’s error in thinking there is no homophobia present in his statement about the locker room is childish. It’s a learning opportunity, and that’s how it is presented in this post. Where do you see the vilification? You want to see it. I would have written it exactly the same way if he were white or any other color.
You are the one calling out racism where it doesn’t exist. That diminishes calling out actual racism.
who is calling him out as an enemy?
There is no goal of ruining anyone’s position – all he has to do is apologize publicly. Look, if he does have a wonderful career in the NBA — and I hope he does — understanding what homophobia is, and how the fear can be overcome rather than affirmed is the goal. And my other message (and it seems to be needed to be heard by most young people) is that if you have a Facebook or Twitter account and it’s wide open to the world, don’t put anything out there you’re not willing to have the world see.
And finally, I’m so tired of you ginning up the imaginary “issue with black men” garbage. I’ve explained that down thread. You’re the one with issues. And I’m not responsible for what another blogger writes – hold them accountable, don’t blame me in advance as some weapon to flog PHB. We get it, you don’t like the blog, so stop reading it.
huh?You are absolutely responsible for what other blogs write.
Sadly…you have a point…What will no doubt happen is that this will race around the LGBT blogosphere and rile up the usual gang of white gays that already have a massive amount of hate for black Americans already. They in turn will not stop unitl this kid is removed from the team or run off campus.
I personally believe that these guys seriously need to be taught to stay away from the likes of twitter and facebook. They should keep their thoughts to themselves and share them only with their friends, loved ones and teammates…the people that are not likley to try and destroy them or their lives.
It was overkill with Kobe, but he is a harder target to hurt. Thus guy will not have wealth and fame to protect him and the usual suspects will tear him apart.
exactlyand who will we have to blame when this kid’s life is ruined over a youthful infelicitation — Pam Spaulding and her amazing “scoop”.
Well done!
Pam says she’s not responsible for what other bloggers write — sounds decidedly like Sarah Palin in the week following the Cong. Gifford shooting!
There is another possability.Maybe, just maybe, he’s not homophobic but is just uncomfortable with being naked around men who could possibly be looking at his body in a sexual fashion. Besides, it’s on twitter, it’s his own opinion. Unless he takes a crowbar to the next gay man in the locker room, why does this matter?
I missed this trainwreck, LOLthank the FSP.
I kinda sorta agree with renwl and Pam…I mean, it’s not fuh-laming homophobia but still…
The interesting part here, though, is that whole John Amaechi is “too big to be gay”? What the fuck is up with that.
Now what I do see is that this kid has a fixed image of what and who “gay people” are in his mind that really is homophobic.
And Kaufman needs to quit with his misogynist garbage
Let me see if I understand you correctly, Kaufmanany black man who makes a homophobic statement should not receive any sort of news coverage whatsoever because of the big bad racist white gays, correct?
I mean, sometimes if someone steppting on your toes is offensive to you, maybe you simply need to take your feet out of the damn aisle.
Same hereI think I’m kind of in a middle-ground where you may be, kevinchi.
It’s clearly ignorance – and at the risk of sounding ageist, it’s also really immature but not surprising for an 18 year old.
Seems like we should be engaging him in dialogue instead of stomping on him. It’s good to call it out in blogs, though, so that we can have the conversation.
I was hoping you were going to saythat you missed this trainwreck because you weren’t much interested in the tweeted pronouncements of teenage b-ball players. The very definition of jejune.
Anyway,could I get a male perspective here (anyone?): does Kaufman have a really small penis, do you think? Is that why he wants Pam to “man-up”?
Jejune- that’s such a good word, lolI mean, sure it’s a good educational opportunity. CJ Leslie put that bit of bizness out in the street so he really can’t be angry about the blowback here…I mean seriously.
And yes, incidents like this can and do serve as educational opportunities.
And how dare Kaufman throw responsibility at Pam when he can’t even monitor to vicious homophobia on the threads of his own pieces at various places in the blogosphere. What a trifling, lazy ass MF’er he is.
Actually…he did not say that at all…What he is pointing out is that this tweet is from a relatively insignificant college freshman. He does not say “any black man.” This guy is not in the NBA or manager in the NHL…he is a realtive nobody who gave his personal thoughts on the subject of gays in the lockeroom. To disagree with him is fine, but you and I both know that there is a core group of white gay folks that are going to go after him tooth an nail to make sure his life is as miserable as possible.
There is an alarmingly large segement of their/your community that has a viceral hatred of black Americans (and black men in particular). You yourself have pointed out the disturbing direction that these discussions tend to head.
There shouldn’t be stompingHowever, Renwl and David Kaufman perceive my merely calling out (and John Amaechi’s response) as stomping on the black man. This is ludicrous. ENC called for an apology, that’s fairly simple; there is no call for punishment.
And as far as my responsibility to what others blog, that’s equally ridiculous. First of all, I don’t call for a witch hunt; what others choose to see in the incident is based on their worldview. If it’s racist, then call it out, don’t point a finger this way since there wasn’t any mention of race on my part.
Sorely needed discussions about race need not be tied to some particular event – I just see little interest by people in doing so without framing it in the the wake of some negative incident. When I bring it up without any connection, few comments result.
and you well know that i willdeal with the “KKKgay” commenters when those comments come.
And if folks simply called him an asshole, I wouldn’t mind and would join in that for a little while.
An I’m not simply talking about this sole comment of Kaufman; I’m talking about quite a few comments that he’s made throughout the blogosphere that seems to suggest that no gay blog should ever publish ANYTHING that reflects negative on black people because of the (admittedly inevitable, I will agree) onslught of racist comments
ExactlyI have never said that Black homophobes should not be called out and taken down. What I do wonder is the agenda behind the “exposure” of this kid. He had 550-ish twitter followers. He’s barely 18. He is of little or no consequence to anyone. Moreover, the kid probably — I am not saying definitely — comes from a poor background with little or no resources to defend himself from the inevitable assault of vitriol and take-downs from the organized LGBT blog-o-sphere.
Had this kid been kicked off the team and lost his scholarship, would this site have rallied to ensure he stays in school? Or find him a job? Or tend to all of the numerous challenges that Black men lacking an education face? Would this site have taken responsibility for the wanton destruction of this kid’s life. You may call this hyperbole, but we all know I am not being far-fetched.
The kid apologized and I assume it will blow over. But why make him a target in the first place. Why make him the locus of homophobia when there are so many other truly damaging homophobes out there. And why — when we know that the inevitable backlash will be laced with racism and race-baiting — does a Black woman lead the lynch mob?
It boggles my mind. There are enough White lgbt bloggers committed to stirring up hatred of Black folks — especially black hetero males — out there already. Why does this site cheer them on?
Call me a misogynist all you want; but I am no more (or less) hating of women than this site hates men.
Stop lyingThis site, nor do I, hate men, or “target” black men in particular. You bring up race where it is not a topic at all.
Where in my post is there a lynch mob mentality? Nowhere. You are projecting beyond reason because you have generated imaginary issues to inflame people that have nothing to do with the facts as presented. You create malice where there is none to suit your own agenda.
That’s my point, PamThe lynch mob is already out there — waiting and hungry. You just deliver their latest feast on a silver platter. And as an “exclusive”, no less.
Again, one can only ask why?
How does this serve you? Or the “community”? Or this kid?
Why not target far more pernicious homophobes — of which there are many.
What does this do to reduced racism or homophobia or both?
Nothing. All it does is demonize a kid who — like all of us — is simply human, fallible and flawed.
Well…correct me if I am wrong but I do think that the majority of the commenters at this site are (white) men.
I don’t think that men would come to this site if Pam featured a lot of man-bashing.
So are you implying that gay men (or white gay men and “Homo-Toms” like myself, I suppose) are not really men?
and you know…it would be nice to live in world where public expressions of homophobia were so stigmatized that it would result in the loss of a career. (and it probably wouidn’t be in basketball).
It further stigmatizes homophobia, reallyand I don’t think that’s a bad thing.
I wonder…David would you say the same thing about the University of Texas football player who made racist comments?
Face it Pam, you have hang ups about heterosexual black menWhen I first got wind of this post I had no idea what blog it appeared on. But no matter. All I had to do was think, “hmmm…usual suspects for black men and gay drama. Let’s start with Pam’s blog.”
BAM! No need to search any further.
But whatever. No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a straight man having concerns about being in a scenario with a gay man that could require nudity.
What are you on? If his concerns are homophobic then you’re a big sexist. Cause I don’t see you in any form or fashion promoting co-ed locker room facilities. After all, women shouldn’t be concerned about straight guys checking them out while they’re nude, right?
You’re ridiculous.
“What a trifling, lazy ass MF’er he is.”Perhaps in his case one might say, “What a trifling, lazy ass FF’er he is.” One never knows, does one?
You and Kaufman are a jokeSeriously.
You know, it’s kinda like I told a straight buddy of mine, if you’re really straight (which F. was and is) and I’m really gay then ain’t nothin’ happening. Not in the locker room, not while swillin’ beers and getting drunk watching the ball game.
And again, the facile equation of gay men with women comes up.
Kevin’s off his meds again. You’re equating gay men with women, idiot. I’m asking if it’s not a problem why aren’t those who have issue with someone having concerns about such things promoting co-ed showers.
No, there’s nothing wrong with straight men having concerns about that. What planet do you live on, Bobby Beeserk?
Again with the name-callingbut anyway…
actually (as I stated) I think the quote about Amaechi is far more interesting (and indicative of his homophobia).
but…what’s to be concerned aboutin a situation like that?
Sigh…Kevin, why is it wrong to express discomfort at the notion that someone of the same sex could be checking out your junk at the gym in the locker room?
All the boy did was express some unease about it. Pam turned it into some sort of benign homophobia tantrum.
He spoke his truth. And in doing so creates opportunity for him to communicate with others who can share a different perspective that could endorse and encourage the possibility of him moving from discomfort to whateves.
It seems, particularly folks like Pam are authentically not interested in progress. Bitchfest? Yea. Progress? No.
Pam, you of all people have been calling for open dialog on race for years, which is one of the things that has long endeared me to you. You are a good example of how to do race stuff.
endeared you to megot that mixed up
this is going to be resolvedMr. Leslie is entitled to whatever opinions that he has. The problem is that he has embarrassed the university and insulted a portion of the fanbase with his unfiltered comments. I have it on very good authority that this is going to be dealt with.
Foolthere is a big difference between a major league hockey agent and sean avery and some no-name 18 year college kid.
The former two are in major positions of power and authority. This kid is a practical unknown.
He is of minimal consequence to the Gaysphere; the other two are of consequence to the entire media public.
There is no comparison!
PamIf he were white, then it would never have been an issue in the first place. You were tipped off to this story by some white fellow student — who’s entire MO is anchored in CJ’s color. That’s the point here. The entire race-laced atmosphere surrounding this issue is based on the frenzy of anti-black sentiment espoused — and supported — by mainstream LGBT bloggers. What’s wretched here is your participation in this vile and regressive agenda. Again, you speak about some mythical “learning opportunity” here. Well, where is it? What has CJ “learned”? Basically to be more discreet on Twitter. I doubt he’s learned to view LGBTs as allies or friends. Which, had this issue been dealt with on a more one-to-one basis, could certainly have been the case.
Spare us…your self-serving b.s. about a teachable moment. You aren’t looking for progress; you’re here to defend homophobia.
Oh, please!There is no poor black male exception to gay equality.
What is grossly inappropriate is your attempt to appropriate the imagery of lynching and use it as a weapon.
You are out of control.
Practical unknown to you Newsflash: In NC, college basketball is a religion
If you would have taken the time to google “CJ Leslie” you would have been provided ample evidence that this isn’t the first news story about him.
The idea that a college basketball star in NC isn’t in a position of influence or consequence is disingenuous.
Yes You DidYou think we should coddle and pet and compliment young straight black male homophobes.
No.
OK, Kaufmanif you want to throw race cards into this, let’s play.
What’s the difference between CJ’s comments about Amaechi and those who may have discriminated against Amaechi at the gay bar in Manchester, England?
Isn’t Leslie basically saying the same thing (that, to me, is a far more interesting comment than his comments about the locker room).
actually, renwlthe politics and the protocols of checking out someone’s junk in the locker room could be the subject of a post.
Shit, I’ve had straight AND gay guys checking out my junk (and it’s not like straight guys ain’t checking out the junk in the locker room, themselves lol).
LOL basketball in NC is likefootball in Michigan, LOL. It’s a religion
When Jim Harbaugh made his anti-gay comments a few months back, I was sooooooooo making excuses for him.
Same with Jalen Rose’s “Uncle Tom” comments against Grant Hill (I like Grant Hill but…he is a Dukie)
100% agreed, SkepticalCicadaand we don’t agree on much at all.
I cringe everytime a black person throws out the lynching metaphor in the silliest of situations.
Also, while I do understand and am sensitive to Kaufman’s concerns, he really is asking for a black (heterosexual) male exception to the rule (or, to be more precise, Kaufman would prefer criticisms of those in some type of political power position…so he says now).
It”s just as important to root out and stigmatize homophobia wherever you find it in culture(s) as well.
there is no connectionCJ has now power to influence amaechi’s freedom of movement; a white bar bouncer has plenty!
NO poweri meant
I agree with you on the power connectionbut they said the EXACT same thing. My focus there was on what was actually said by both of them and Amaechi was (and is?) perceived.
After all, isn’t Leslie appropriating an illusory form of power by going into outright refusal (as opposed to denial) about Amaechi’s sexual orientation? And it didn’t even matter to Leslie how Amaechi self-identified.
Leslie can easily “other” his neighborhood fem-acting “queen.” But he can’t very well accept or even admit to that Amaechi (or someone else in the locker room, for that matter) is an “other” (for whatever reason) So…he simply doesn’t exist, at least to Leslie.
That’s some powerful rhetoric, there.
David, an individual within the black community(or the community of basketball players, for that matter) or the entire community has the power to name and enforce cultural protocols. That’s cultural anthropology 101.
In fact, you’re doing it in this thread, to an extent.
Leslie statement does the same thing.