The San Francisco Human Rights Commission is reviewing a groundbreaking report “Bisexual Invisibility: Impacts and Recommendations,” believed to be the first of its kind by a government body in the U.S. Here is the PDF. Some of the findings reveal a lot about a community that is rarely central to the discussion of LGBT rights. The author and editor of the report is LGBT Advisory Committee member Lindasusan Ulrich. From the report:
According to several studies, self-identified bisexuals make up the largest single population within the LGBT community in the United States. In each study, more women identified as bisexual than lesbian, and fewer men identified as bisexual than gay men.Bisexuals experience high rates of being ignored, discriminated against, demonized, or rendered invisible by both the heterosexual world and the lesbian and gay communities. Often, the entire sexual orientation is branded as invalid, immoral, or irrelevant. Despite years of activism and the largest population within the LGBT community, the needs of bisexuals still go unaddressed and their very existence is still called into question. This erasure has serious consequences on bisexuals’ health, economic well-being, and funding for bi organizations and programs.
- Bisexuals constitute the largest population within the LGBT community, but few services exist to address their specific needs.
- One in two bi women and one in three bi men have attempted or seriously considered suicide. This is significantly higher than the rates for heterosexuals, lesbians, and gay men.
- Bisexuals experience higher rates of hypertension, depression, poor or fair physical health, smoking, risky drinking, and other mood or anxiety disorders.
- Bisexual men were 50% more likely to live in poverty than gay men, and bisexual women were more than twice as likely to live in poverty as lesbians.
- In 2008 and 2009, not a single grant in the entire country explicitly focused on bisexual issues.
…While bisexuality has often been considered merely a “phase” en route to a stable gay or lesbian orientation, it is also a stable sexual orientation in itself. A longitudinal study of sexual minority women (lesbian, bisexual, or unlabeled) found that over 10 years, “more women adopted bisexual/unlabeled identities than relinquished them” [emphasis in original]. Of those who began the study identifying as bisexual, 92% identified as bisexual or unlabeled 10 years later, and 61% those who began as unlabeled identified as bisexual or unlabeled 10 years later. While no similar long-term study has been done with bisexual men, at least one study suggests that bisexuality can be a stable sexual orientation for men as well.
There is a lot of information to digest – and to discuss. Have a look at it.




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Yay for being seen! Happily bisexually male since 1977!
God I love being bisexual. Make no mistake.Ha! Since ’75! LOL hugs
…Why do I feel like super terrible things are in my future now?
How do you know?Thanks for posting this, Pam. I look forward to reading the report.
As a bi person, I think the invisibility/erasure is difficult to address. During times that I’ve been with a same-sex partner, people would assume I was a lesbian. When I was with an opposite-sex partner, people would assume that I was straight. Unless I wore a sign that proclaimed “bisexual,” how would anyone know? (BTW, I think sex and gender are more fluid than the polarities that are commonly assigned.)
Interestingly (to me, at least) my longest-term relationships were with people who also identified as bisexual.
Terrible thingsYeah – that’s why I want to read the entire report. It’s hard to believe I’m destined for little more than hypertension, anxiety, depression, poverty and suicide.
Sheesh – it began as such a glorious ride.
people knowpeople know if you come out to them and/or tell them about past relationships with a same-sex partner.
here’s a semantics problem i’ve been wrestling with that maybe you or someone else can help me with: when writing about same-sex couples i prefer to say “gay and lesbian couples” rather than “same-sex couples” because it’s much more humanizing to talk about us as people and not as sexual units. but i am completely aware that “gay and lesbian couples” renders bi folks invisible whereas “same-sex couples” doesn’t. but if i say “lesbian, bisexual and gay couples” i am concerned that people may misunderstand that i am only including bisexual people who are in fact in same-sex couples. if i say “a bill was signed creating civil unions for lesbian, bisexual and gay couples”, it isn’t really clear whether opposite-sex couples might not be included.
btw, we need to come up with a more humanizing term like “gay” for bi’s! you’re still tied to a term that focuses on sex. which is ironic isn’t it, since bisexuals aren’t focused on the sex of the person they fall in love with?! ”biaffectional” might be nice.
HumanizingI agree that “it’s much more humanizing to talk about us as people.” My comment was intended to reflect the supposed assumptions of observers. The way it feels to me is that I’m attracted to specific persons, not specific genders. And, as you pointed out, sex isn’t the only focus.
A more humanizing term? That would be good. ”Bisexual” has the same cold clinical quality as “homosexual.”
Invisible or shunned for being a bisexual maleEsquisito said, “I’m attracted to specific persons, not specific genders.” I have never heard my life experience as a bisexual man put so succinctly!
I didn’t know what I was until I 27 years old. I had a boyfriend (secret) in middle school, girl friends in high school, and both in college. It wasn’t until I went to the BiCon in NYC in 1994 that I finally had the validation from peers of what I was.
Since then it’s been the stereotypical life: bullied by gay men at the gay center for liking women, hated by lesbians for dating women at all. I abandoned the ‘gay rights’ movement in the mid 1990s since I was clearly not wanted by either ‘side’ in the gay movement.
Finally in 1996 I met a bisexual woman. Living with another bi was what stabilized my life and kept me sane.
I have found that the gay and lesbian crowd hate me and my partner far more than straight people do.
Sure it says ‘LGBT’, but we B’s are barely tolerated. The T’s have a far higher acceptance by the L’s and G’s, than us B’s do.
Thank you, Pam, for posting this item!Pam, THANK YOU for posting this item on the San Francisco Human Rights Commission’s report on the harms done by anti-bisexual bigotry. I had no idea it was this bad.
Also, I haven’t seen this on any other lesbian or gay blog (though there are a fair number I haven’t checked).
I’m a bisexual male, pretty much down the middle bisexual. However, I identify as gay. And that, actually, is due to anti-bisexual bigotry, so maybe that makes me a wimp or a coward, but I don’t think of it that way. If I’m saying much about myself, I’ll tell people I’m technically bisexual (I consider myself a gay-identified bisexual man). But calling myself gay is the way I first put myself forward (if I feel it’s safe to bring up my sexual orientation at all). And I do that because if a man calls himself bisexual, gay people will think, “He’s gay but doesn’t want to admit it”. While straight people will think, “He’s a fag but doesn’t want to admit it”. That way, I’m directly putting forward the thing our wonderful society finds most objectionable, the homosexual part of me. So the covert haters get that in their face immediately and are implicitly challenged to do something about it or shut up.
Because while people can claim that prejudice against bisexuals is equally as bad among straight and gay people, I think that’s untrue. Gay people might give me attitude over my heterosexuality or in some ways dis me or socially discriminate against me, but straight people are generally able to discriminate against my homosexuality in much worse ways. And straight people have been known to harass homosexual people, both exclusively homosexual and bisexual ones, or to threaten us, assault us or even kill us. While I can’t think of any case of a lesbian or gay person threatening, assaulting or killing someone simply because they were heterosexual.
I consider myself gay also because I really hate the homophobic bigotry that comes so disproportionately from straight people, and because I just don’t identify with the machismo, contempt for women and general arrogance of so many straight men. Not all, by any means, but way too goddamn many.
And I need someone to stand with who will stand with me. Bacause let’s be honest, there is no bisexual community as such, just two armed camps, gay and straight, and the gay one is likely to protect me, and while the straight one is always potentally dangerous for someone like me (even if the dangers much of the time are emotional, rather than physical).
What is said about the gay community mostly ignoring or just tolerating bisexual people is absolutely true. But what’s so pathetic about it is that, as I understand it, a clear majority of gay people of each gender are bisexual to some degree. So I’m saying there’s a great deal of closet heterosexuality (not straightness) in the lesbian and gay male community. And I’m saying that many anti-bisexual gay men and lesbians are themselves bisexual, so they are acting in a classic “closet case” manner, hating it in others and being it at the same time, though the animosity, fear and denial seem stronger among lesbian closet bisexuals, while gay male closet bisexuals tend to just devalue their own heterosexuality rather than denying they’ve ever acted or desired heterosexually.
While I am not saying the majority of people altogether are bisexual, a substantial minority of straight people are. (And of course some “straight” people are mostly or exclusively homosexual.) The truth is that “straight”, “gay” and “lesbian” don’t definitively describe anything but political allegiance.
I’ve been given shit by both gay and straight men, told my sexuality is impossible and just can’t exist. I’ve been told “You have to be one or the other!” (by a gay man). I’ve been told I was “confused” (by bigoted straight men). Women don’t hassle me about it, but straight women will automatically assume I’m gay and therefore undesirable, if maybe still okay to talk to, while lesbians are often so uptight about the possibility of being hit on by men that I mostly just don’t bring up my bisexuality around them.
I’ve been in a committed relationship with a woman for decades, but while it’s obviously a heterosexual relationship, I don’t consider it a straight one, because I identify as gay, and she identifies as a lesbian. (She also, obviously, is bisexual.)
In general, I’ve had a much better time in intimate involvements with bisexual women (however they self-identify) or with generally non-conformist straight women. Conventional straight women who are hung up on the whole heterosexist gender role thing have not turned out well for me, and to be honest, I think most of them think in a screwed up way. But as far as men, I just get involved with whoever I find myself connecting with, and if it becomes at all a steady thing, I tell them about my primary relationship. I’ve never been rejected by a man at that point.
Many straight women are really uptight about possibly being with bisexual guys, and I’ve heard them say to each other how important it is to screen out any “gay” guys who might be attracted to them. Clearly any homosexual guy who is interested in them is also heterosexual, therefore bisexual, but that doesn’t seem to matter, they just consider bi guys who are sexually interested in them to be gay guys and therefore undesirable. It’s a good thing that there are bisexual women, including some lesbian identified ones, who are interested in bisexual men, but it can be really disheartening that straight women with their anti-bisexual prejudices are the majority of women who are heterosexual.
I remember being at a store one day when one of a group of three young women indicated in a voice intended to carry that she found me attractive after I had passed around into the back of the store away from them. Which made me feel good. Until one of her friends, clearly also talking about me, loudly replied “I like my [something I don't remember] like I like my men — straight!” I felt crushed, and just hid in the back of the store until the women had paid for their purchases and left. I felt shamed and humiliated.
I mostly don’t talk about my bisexuality when I am hanging out with gay people in a group setting. Often, when hanging out socially, like at gay bars, people can feel impinged upon by heterosexual expression, the bar being a refuge from the straight world, or at least from heterosupremacy. So I feel that I’m being “polite” by not bringing up my bisexuality much in a bar setting. Maybe that makes me pathetic but I really do want to be respectful of other people and as homosexual people, we all can have a raw nerve about straight people and certain types of heterosexual expression. I understand that. Also, though, I don’t want to be regarded negatively.
I guess I wasn’t aware of being more oppressed than gay men are, but I am conscious of the fact that while I have to deal with most of what gay men have to deal with, I also have an extra set of problems to deal with in my life. Agreeing with the people in SFHRC’s study, I’m very happy with my sexuality, but I truly wish this were a friendlier world for people like me, as well as for exclusively homosexual people.
And for transgender people too, who have to deal with a horrific amount of crap.
On reading this over, I’m surprised I had so much to say. Somehow, it just doesn’t seem like our (bisexual) lives are ever the subject in any LGBT settings. Again, thank you so much, Pam, for bringing up the subject of our lives as distinct from those of (exclusively homosexual and bi-closet case) lesbians and gay men.
Bi community@ Donny – It depends on where you live, but there IS a bisexual community now. It is strongest in places like Minneapolis, Boston, LA, and New York, but you can find it online by going to the BiNET USA Web page and looking for a Yahoo group near you, or joining the main BiNET USA Yahoo group. Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) also has lots of info, and for the young, there is lots going on on BRC and Tumblr. New York has a Bi Meetup group listing all the bi activities going on. If you are lucky, even some very small communities have bi support groups, so you don’t have to be in the closet of the closet. If not, there is the Bisexual Men page on Facebook, and TONS of other support for bisexuals on Facebook (that’s a good place to start). I also recommend the Transcending Boundaries conference in Massacusetts the weekend before Thanksgiving – it’s for bi and trans people, and other alternate sexualities, and reasonably priced. Being around hundreds of other bisexuals, and not having to hide who you are, is a life-transforming experience.
We are the most numerous group of queer people – why should we have to hide?
Happily bisexual since 1973Gay, Inc and straight, Inc both nee to br brought down. Everyone is bisexual: wouldn’t it be a nicer world!
Cewebrity
Because the solution to having one’s sexuality erased…is to erase everyone else’s sexuality?
No thanks.