I asked permission of Melanie Nathan to crosspost her LezGetReal piece from November 17th, entitled EXCLUSIVE: What GetEQUAL’s Robin McGehee Told the White House Today. Melanie said yes, and the article is below this header.
For transgender people, and those who care about transgender people’s civil rights, there is an important message to note from the piece in these two paragraphs from Melanie’s piece (emphasis added):
[GetEQUAL Executive Director Robin] McGehee said although she was there about DADT- she could not allow the opportunity to be exclusive to that as the only LGBT issue; and so she pulled out a picture of her two children and introduced them to the group. She said that Although she realized DOMA may not be repealed at this time, she wanted the President to revert to his old pre- Presidential campaign position on marriage equality where he did support same sex marriage. “Everyday that our families live without dignity, the President should think of going back to his original stand and he must support marriage equality- as person of faith he should think of our dignity. Remember he came out and said that his religious beliefs precluded him from endorsing same-sex marriage for gays- well, as a person of faith the President ought to reflect on his denying our families and community the right to live with dignity.Additionally she asked that the White House stop all future Federal Contracts that do not include protections for Transgender people; and she informed him it was her belief that if in fact this happened it would encourage more corporations who wanted to Contracts to do the same.
I was there in the room when GetEQUAL’s short list of example actions of things that could be accomplished only with President prerogative, without any need of any Congressional action to accomplish. I didn’t bring up any transgender specific issue in that room — someone else made that suggestion that businesses that want to contract with the U.S. Government be required to have equal opportunity policies that included protections based on gender identity. I chimed in and agreed, but my intra-community LGBT community allies in that room were acting as the transgender community allies they are without me prompting them to do so. Fierce advocacy for T-issues by people associated with GetEQUAL is the main reason why I agreed to be on GetEQUAL’s Provisional Board, as well as participate in GetEQUAL actions. I would not work with GetEQUAL if I didn’t think those associated with GetEQUAL considered T specific issues as equal to LGB specific issues.
I asked Robin — that is, Robin McGehee — to expand for trans people and allies why she, on behalf of GetEQUAL, made that transgender specific request to the White House in her meeting with staffer Brian Bond:
It wasn’t even a question when we got inside yesterday’s meeting that we were going to use that opportunity to strongly advocate that the President use his bully pulpit to do everything he can to lobby for passage of a fully-inclusive ENDA.And, given the make-up of Congress next year, if legislative passage of a fully-inclusive ENDA is not possible, then the President should use his full executive authority to end federal contracts and funding to entities without fully-inclusive discrimination policies, or any other measures he can execute outside of Congress. As far as I’m concerned this isn’t a political issue as much as it is a moral imperative, and it’s vital that the President show leadership on this issue. The minute the President shows leadership, I firmly believe that others will follow.
~~Autumn~~
11-17-2010 – Today Robin McGehee did something most unusual for a school mom turned activist. A lesbian mom and executive Director of an LGBT organization GetEqual Robin took the words of LGBT grassroots into the White House.
From, yesterday chained to the fence of the White House, to being dragged off, feet scraping ground, by two burly arresting police officers , to a meeting inside the White House with Brian Bond and a Member of the President’s Domestic Policy Council and a White House legal Counsel on LGBT issues.
Robin called me moments after the meeting, her voice breaking with emotion as she walked down the Pennsylvania Blvd, cell phone in hand, another moment of true grass roots activism.
She told me, “when the White House found out that the bloggers had been informed and broken the news of our meeting they were angry. But I told them that I was not willing to do any back room deals – but that I wanted to be transparent. That I wanted my LGBT community to see and hear everything that happens. It is their equality at stake and they deserve that. She said she would rather leave than not be transparent.”
Mr. Bond told Robin McGehee, who points out that she was there as an activist, a mother, a lesbian and representing GetEQUAL, that he would then be unable to speak because he did not want what he said “used against them” but that he would listen. She told, he listened and he made notes.
McGehee told him that she would like to hear from the White House where LGBT equality legislation stood, specifically that she wanted to hear about Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.
She asked for an Executive Order by years end. She asked why the White House was not going ahead with an executive order to stop discharges; she said the LGBT community was insisting on it at the very least; Why is DADT different from any other legislation? Why is the President not pushing and persuading Senator Snowe and Collins, the fence sitters? Why is the President not spending some political capital here for DADT?
She told Bond that not one single member of the Military should be discharged and that the President ought to be reflecting that by his actions.
Mr. Bond told Robin that they are working as hard as they can; saying ” we want to see that happen” – Robin pushed further and said there is a difference between wanting to make it happen and making it happen. It must happen.
McGehee said although she was there about DADT- she could not allow the opportunity to be exclusive to that as the only LGBT issue; and so she pulled out a picture of her two children and introduced them to the group. She said that Although she realized DOMA may not be repealed at this time, she wanted the President to revert to his old pre- Presidential campaign position on marriage equality where he did support same sex marriage. ”Everyday that our families live without dignity, the President should think of going back to his original stand and he must support marriage equality- as person of faith he should think of our dignity. Remember he came out and said that his religious beliefs precluded him from endorsing same-sex marriage for gays- well, as a person of faith the President ought to reflect on his denying our families and community the right to live with dignity.
Additionally she asked that the White House stop all future Federal Contracts that do not include protections for Transgender people; and she informed him it was her belief that if in fact this happened it would encourage more corporations who wanted to Contracts to do the same.
We also asked for the LGBT community to have a cabinet position.
Two weeks ago I had a meeting with Robin McGehee and Kathy Drasky from OUT4Immigration at a fabulous San Francisco Sushi Restaurant – thank you BLOWFISH.
It was there, while talking about the Uniting American Families Act and my hope it would be included with the DREAM Act in the lame duck session. I also showed Robin my Binational Visa and Pledge campaign. I spoke to Robin about the binational same sex community ‘s dissatisfaction and desperation. That we were fed up with being the unnoticed of all gay issues, yet our UAFA- having the highest amount of co-sponsorship of all LGBT equality bills, in Congress. We also discussed my views and writings about UAFA being stuck in Immigration reform.
SO Robin did not let us down and she spoke up “I told Mr. Bond that we wanted to see passage of the Uniting American families Act. That not one more person who has an American partner should be deported, separated or living in exile. I told him, Mel about your binational Visa as a stop gap measure, and asked the President to get it done – and he wrote it down. I stressed he must stop the deportations of gay and lesbian spouses and partners. If we do not get UAFA this lame duck session then the President must ensure no more deportations and getting our permanent partners Visas to come into the Country.
Robin McGehee did the Lgbt movement a great deed today. The White House may well have heard the voices of everyday gays and lesbians. I believe we will see action and if we do not there will be more fences, more chains, and more noise. Robin is inviting transparency as we move towards our basic civil rights, in the form of a real movement that is birthing as we speak. The movement that demands full equality.
In the meantime – call your Senators and ask what they are doing to broker the REPEAL of DADT in this Session and while you are at it, mention UAFA being included with DREAM ACT in this lame duck session.




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Wow! Yay! Wow! Think GetEqualmight need a bail fund?
Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!!!!!!She just did more for us in one afternoon’s time than Joe Solomonese has done in decades. She’s put human faces on our families, ourselves, along with our hopes and dreams.
If they can resist acting on what Robin has spoken of today, then they are reptiles.
One way or another, we will know their hearts. They know ours.
Thanks Autumn
Thanks for the UAFA/Immigration shout out.
Remember when candidate Obama promised transparency and no backroom deals?That earned a vote.
A single vote.
Since then, we’ve had backroom deal and no transparency. And then this with confirmation that there will be no transparency ever.
We have 18 months. Is that enough time to get behind a third national progressive party or to actually start one from scratch?
Because Obama will get the Democratic nomination and I can’t be the only person in my swing state that will not vote for him again and there have to be more than one swing state like this.
Would you please then……start such a party?
Thanks for posting that here.Since I was banned from LezGetReal and all.
Why should LGBT people of color care?Yes, DADT disproportionately affects PoC. But pushing for DOMA repeal and a cabinet position? Really?
What about LGBT youth homelessness? You know, something that actually matters to people of color.
And if the person in that Cabinet positionwere a LGBT person of color?
And…you do know where the highest concentration of LGBT families with children is located, don’t you?
Not in West Hollywood.
Not in San Francisco.
Not in Boston.
It’s the Bronx.
People of color don’t actually matterin these debates.
The things that matter to us are not considered important. That’s why DADT and DOMA and even UAFA always supercede issues that might impact a wider group of people.
Once you recognize that the bulk of the LGBT agenda is driven by a self important white elite…their actions start to make more sense.
I applaud Brian Bondfor being willing to sit down and listen to a member of the extremist fringe.
I feel confident that this will not get anywhere near the President’s desk, which is for the best. But its occasionally good to know that the extremists are screaming about.
Oh, DADT does mattereven igoldin acknowledged that.
But…what do you think matters?
Because quite frankly, I hear more LGBT of color bitching about what is (or is not!) happening than LGBT of color actually putting an agenda out there.
DADT is a good example of that actually, black lesbians are more impacted by the discharges than any other group yet you wouldn’t know that by the faces that you see.
Kinda the same thing with DOMA, actually; after all, white “elites” have the money to pay lawyers for all of these benefits.
What do I think matters…Well given a choice…I would have preferred that all of the energy that went into DADT and complaining about marriage been directed toward ENDA.
ENDA is the policy that impacts the greatest number of people and would have had the greatest impact ofr LGBT people of color…particularly those in red states and rural areas.
On top of that:
Health Care
Housing
Education
Crime
Child care
Employment
You know, pocket book issues that are often the most important issues in the lives of POC’s generally (and indeed most Americans).
OK, now here’s the thing…there was an attempt to address specific LGBT health concerns in the health insurance reform bill and it was stripped out of the Senate bill, for example.
I actually agree with you about ENDA, by the way.
I mean, who should address those concerns, the gay community or the POC communities?
I mean, exactly what should LGBT communities address and along what lines?
For example, issues of LGBT bullying are at the forefront right now and I know that people do want to expand that out to include all bullying but…I think the specificity of LGBT bullying needs to be addressed…and that is an education issue.
Otherwise, why can’t Gay POC’s go to their ethnic communities to address those problems (and there are some that do)?
DOMA doesn’t matter to POC? Really? REALLY?
Igoldin:
First you suggest that DOMA doesn’t actually matter to people of color. Youre just plain wrong! The repeal of DOMA matters to every GLBT person regardless of color. As one half of a binational couple, the end of DOMA is paramount because I don’t see this Congress passing the much needed UAFA bill.
Second. A cabinet position is a great idea. Clearly we need someone that will push the equality agenda since HRC and Joe Solmonese have dropped the ball. Now whether a position happens or not…we’ll have to see. But we have to keep pushing.
But now, waitaminute…Are you white?
I’m asking that because, yes, POC’s LGBTs want marriage equality too but it is not as high of a priority with POC (esp. those that already are American citizens) LGBTs as it is with whites; that much I know and hear among some POC LGBT’s myself that the marriage thing is a “white thing”)
Another questionDo you actually know any LGBs of color that either are currently serving in the Armed Forces or who are vets?
Because I’ve met and talked with a few (including a couple that were discharged under DADT).
And they do think that DADT repeal is an important issue.
Wait, not wanting my partner and I
to live on opposites sides of the world is being extreme? I don’t say this often because I don’t think it’s constructive but I will make an exception….
FUCK YOU!
I believe you’ve described the trap for many LGBT POCs“Otherwise, why can’t Gay POC’s go to their ethnic communities to address those problems”
In my conversations with black LGBTs, the pocketbook issues Geek mentioned do appear to be more of a concern than, say, hate crimes. As a friend told me, the problems of the black gay community stem from society’s general treatment of black people.
BUT these individuals often do not feel like they can be involved with the NAACP, Urban League, or other activist groups because of real or perceived homophobia.
So they end up bringing all these concerns (or baggage) to LGBT organizations (“mainstream” and those aimed at POC LGBTs alike) even though they are not specifically LGBT problems. This causes a divide with those who feel the groups should be about, well, being LGBT.
Ultimately this gets white organizations labelled as racist and black organizations/leaders accused of “acting white.”
All the while, these critics are not stepping up to the plate with solutions or trying to assume leadership.
It ends up with the black LGBT community being fractured and in without a coherent agenda [I believe this describes LGBTs in general]. Black LGBT organizations are expected to address racism AND homophobia with much fewer resources (financial and personnel-wise) than groups with a singular focus. That’s a lot to expect from an activist, and I suspect a major reason so many get burned out.
Calm, calm calm.Please remember ad hominem attacks aren’t okay here at The Blend. I know you’re upset and angry — and believe me, you have the right to be angry — but please don’t couch your responses as personal attacks.
That’s functionally feeding the trolls — he provoked you, and you got angry like he intended at least one someone in the LGBT community to get angry.
A general response to many commentsI think people forget that we LGBT do not get to set the federal legislative agenda. Congress does that. That’s why instead of ENDA we got Hate Crimes, a law that only helps us after we’ve been murdered. We got it because Congress saw it correctly as low-hanging fruit. ENDA is harder. DADT is harder. DOMA is harder. UAFA is harder. We as individuals and our organizations can tell Congress what our priorities are, but we’re a fairly powerless and tiny minority so our agenda largely gets set for us.
The “white elite” people love to rail about can demand DOMA repeal or whatever all they want, but if Congressional leaders don’t see it as a win, it will not happen. So I recommend we stop accusing various racial or economic factions of running the federal LGBT agenda, because the thought of that is laughable.
I agree with you 100%, AnthonyAnd I’m not even really disagreeing with SciFi Geek, but I do want to know why he feels that these issues need to be addressed by gay organization when it seems that many of them stem from ethnic minority communities…
And frankly, I think that rural gays [of any race/ethnicity (I have to be honest, I really do not like the word "race")] have many of the same problems.
Autumn…
I apologize for my outburst to you and to the members of the Blend.