Kudos to Dan Savage’s project — it has gone viral to the degree that the conflict and controversy-averse President finally stepped up to the plate to tell LGBT youth that the misery of bullying is hard, but not to give up. If you hang in there, and seek resources that are out there, it can get better. The White House also has a blog post up with resources.
As part of the It Gets Better Project, President Obama shares his message of hope and support for LGBT youth who are struggling with being bullied.
Words do matter, as does leadership. Hillary Clinton showed it, and perhaps her video put the pressure on the top dog to get his act together (The President actually gave this speech at the Matthew Shepard dinner earlier). We needed to see the POTUS personally take note of the tragedies that are unfolding because of intolerance, depression, desperation and lack of parental involvement to stop the pain.
Now if only his administration would continue that thought and send a message by to those struggling LGBT youth that he views them as equal to their heterosexual peers through actions, not just words. But the words were sorely needed.
Transcript below the fold.
Remarks of President Barack Obama
Video for the “It Gets Better” Project
Like all of you, I was shocked and saddened by the deaths of several young people who were bullied and taunted for being gay, and who ultimately took their own lives. As a parent of two daughters, it breaks my heart. It’s something that just shouldn’t happen in this country.We’ve got to dispel the myth that bullying is just a normal rite of passage-that it’s some inevitable part of growing up. It’s not. We have an obligation to ensure that our schools are safe forall of our kids. And to every young person out there you need to know that if you’re in trouble, there are caring adults who can help.
I don’t know what it’s like to be picked on for being gay. But I do know what it’s like to grow up feeling that sometimes you don’t belong. It’s tough. And for a lot of kids, the sense of being alone or apart-I know can just wear on you. And when you’re teased or bullied, it can seem like somehow you brought it on yourself-for being different, or for not fitting in with everybody else.
But what I want to say is this. You are not alone. You didn’t do anything wrong. You didn’t do anything to deserve being bullied. And there is a whole world waiting for you, filled with possibilities. There are people out there who love you and care about you just the way you are. And so, if you ever feel like because of bullying, because of what people are saying, that you’re getting down on yourself, you’ve got to make sure to reach out to people you trust. Whether it’s your parents, teachers, folks that you know care about you just the way you are. You’ve got to reach out to them, don’t feel like you’re in this by yourself.
The other thing you need to know is, things will get better. And more than that, with time you’re going to see that your differences are a source of pride and a source of strength. You’ll look back on the struggles you’ve faced with compassion and wisdom. And that’s not just going to serve you, but it will help you get involved and make this country a better place.
It will mean that you’ll be more likely to help fight discrimination-not just against LGBT Americans, but discrimination in all its forms. It means you’ll be more likely to understand personally and deeply why it’s so important that as adults we set an example in our own lives and that we treat everybody with respect. That we are able to see the world through other people’s eyes and stand in their shoes-that we never lose sight of what binds us together.
As a nation we’re founded on the belief that all of us are equal and each of us deserves the freedom to pursue our own version of happiness; to make the most of our talents; to speak our minds; to not fit in; most of all, to be true to ourselves. That’s the freedom that enriches all of us. That’s what America is all about.
And every day, it gets better.




23 Comments


This is exactly…the leadership I had hoped for from him. A little more passion would be nice, but this PSA is more important to me than everything else he has done in his presidency so far, pulled together.
“You didn’t do anything wrong” Thank you!!!! It’s about f-ing time.
Now, about DADT, and DOMA…we don’t do anything wrong when we want to serve our country, or make a lifelong commitment to love somebody.
It will get better…much better, when we can do these things, as the equal Americans that we already are, but are held back from participation.
Ye goddess, what a country we will have, when we can be fully part of it!
it gets betterI am glad to hear the Prez say what he did, but I can’t help but think that while he was taping this his administration was wrongly defending DADT.
Maybe I’m wrong to focus on this …But wouldn’t it have been nice to acknowledge and/or credit who started this campaign of sitting in front of a camera and telling young people it gets better?
Maybe I’ve just gotten to the point that I’ll look for any reason to harp on him …
It was good that he finally stepped into it ..,. I like the term “conflict and controversy-averse” … so apropos.
Hollow WordsObama’s words are hollow as long as his actions continue to demonstrate his contempt for LGBT folks… Who is going to believe him since he has broken every promise he made to us while running for president…
SAME OLD, SAME OLD!
Just like during the campaign when he refused to meet with gay press until after she did; didn’t release a statement about 15 yr. old Lawrence King’s murder until after she did; now AFTER Hillary Clinton recorded an “It Gets Better” message….Barry comes tagging along.
BUT CLOCK THIS: the White House YouTube channel chose to make it an “Unlisted” video which means the video can only be seen if you know the direct URL or see it shared on someone’s page. I won’t soil my eyes and self-respect by watching it.
Even if that was unintentional, even if they fix it, CLASS: can you say “crocodile tears”?
I don’t care if he did this as a political calculation or notthe important thing here is that kids who are hurting will see the president of the untied states reaching out to them. it’s called the bully pulpit and i’m delighted to see him finally use it.
i’m almost 50 and it still had a profoundly damaging effect on me to hear george bush call for an anti-equality constitutional amendment during the state of the union address. president obama’s message will have an equally (but positive) profound effect on kids who really, really need to hear it from an authority figure. it’ll probably have the same effect on some adults too.
bravo barack obama!
Do people REALLY expect kids to not smell the hypocrisy in this?
“All of us are equal” EXCEPT in marriage because, you know, the GOD you believe it says, and I agree, you aren’t good enough….
“pursue your own version of happiness” EXCEPT in the military….
“make the most of your talents” EXCEPT knowing you can apply for a job and not be turned down simply because you’re gay….
Bush said pretty things, too, even as he was calling for an amendment to the US Constitution banning marriage equality.
John McShame eulogized gay Flight 93 hero Mark Bingham and has only become more homophobic since then.
Ad nauseum.
He only did this because he HAD to….just like during the campaign. Might some benefit from it? OF COURSE, but too many are rushing to believe that this is the real Obama who really loves us after all…the same kind of gullible, self-inflicted wound that’s empowered him to betray us for 21 months. Take the handout but don’t confuse it with sincerity or reward it with backing off from what we’ve learned.
Well, thenLet’s go viral with it. Back him into a friggin’ corner with his word. It’s already on my facebook page…it could be the basis for a group or two…or a dozen.
I am not happy with him, don’t kid yourself. I believe my posting history would more than belie any such notion.
BUT he just handed us a tool with which to cut away his stony homophobia, and I intend to use it until it is dulled beyond resharpening.
He does words very well,doesn’t he? A gifted speechifier. And the message? Take the long view. You didn’t do anything wrong. It’ll get better…some day…maybe. Take the long view. That’s what he advises his friends.
Oh please. Obama’s BLAH, BLAH, BLAH!“You got to be kidding, right? There’s a video of Obama with the “It gets better” video? HOW? It gets better when Obama does NOTHING to help the GLBT community other than “blah, blah, blah”?
I don’t even want to see that video. Words are cheap. ACTIONS speak louder than words.
Obama should be ashamed of himself. I truly believe his mother would be ashamed to see what he has become: America’s 1st BLACK President supports DISCRIMINATION!”
Obama’s is LYING out to them!Come on, I thought people who graduated from 1981 would be a little more progressive!
The guy is a LIAR.
ACTIONS is what counts, and kids today are smart enough to know that words mean nothing unless there is action.
Thank you, Mr. President!Now will you please stop defending discriminatory, unconstitutional laws against us?
…I’m glad he did it, and yet can’t help but feel that it is totally disingenuous.
Thank you, Mr. PresidentSometimes it’s classiest and best simply toput the pissyness aside and just be gracious, even for a moment.
Again, thank you Mr. President.
Exactly on targetUnlike the preponderance of people who have made It Gets Better videos, Obama is in a position to actually make things better. And he promised us he would–promised in capital letters during the campaign. But instead of making things better, he has done everything he could, at every possible turn, to impede any progress toward improving the legal status of gay people in this country. The only gay kids who could possibly get sucked into believing he means this are the ones who never read a newspaper or a blog, or watch a TV news report.
This video is a nice gesture, but a gesture is all it is. And an empty one, at that. When Obama starts to actually do things to make the lives and futures of gay kids brighter, I’ll be among the first to give him credit. But all we ever get from him are speeches; this is just one more of them.
you forget what it’s like to be 14most kids that age see the president as an ivory tower figure. obama did take action – he made this video and this is what kids will see: the most powerful, revered man in the nation (true for 14 year olds) taking time to talk to them and hold out a helping hand. the video will not solve all the worlds problems, but it can make a difference to some kids. end of story. instead of calling him a liar and insuring he ignores you, why don’t you press him for the next step: backing anti-bullying legislation? be constructive.
A well-stated response from Andy Towle
That’s my point…
Acknowledging he did it is fair – failing to attach WITH that the contradiction between his words and his actions is irresponsible.
Exactly, Lurleenthis and you note w/ Andy Towle below.
This, exactly.
Again, with respect…
Be REALISTIC, Lurleen, and stop imagining that they’re going to view this in a vacuum.
Kids are known to be able to smell hypocrisy and bullshit a mile away….particularly as this came in the same week’s news cycle of his fighting against gay equality in court….HIS reports saying that letting fags serve will cause “ENORMOUSSSSSSSSS consequences” “IRRRRRREEPARABLE harm” to the military, blah, blah, blah.
Sorry to have to repeat the metaphor, but praise for this is like a nurse in the hospital saying to the patient, “What beautiful flowers! Who sent them to you?”
ANSWER: “The man who put me here.”
some kids may smell hypocrisy, but some -maybe most- won’tthis video like all of them is there for those who it can speak to. there is no harm in it and potentially great help for those kids who love or respect obama. and lots of kids love or respect obama. so do lots of adults, and i hope it will give a few of them pause to think about what they may say carelessly about gays too.
In the internet age kids are more informed than ever before!I agree with you Michael. Young people today can see the INCONSISTENCY between what Obama says and his ACTIONS.
Kids at 14 are more aware of the truth today (thanks to the internet) ore than ever before.
When one is happy with just words and proclamations … then that’s all you will get from a President. If you want more, you need to DEMAND and PRESSURE.
Obama is part of the problem.Promising one thing (actually several things) and doing very little if not almost nothing.