H/T Matkins. Harvey Milk was right when he exhorted queerfolk to come out. Nobody will work for the equal rights of invisible people. Only by making ourselves visible and telling friends and family why equality is important to us, their brothers, sisters, friends and children, will progress be made.
What was true in Harvey’s day is still true today, with a twist. Today it is just as important that our Allies to come out as such. Allies have the unique opportunity to “give permission” to their peers to support equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people.
But it isn’t always easy to come out at an Ally. It is a never-ending process for them just as it is for LGBT people, and they aren’t always rewarded for their honesty by their peers. This is part of what makes Allies so special: they have nothing personal to gain in terms of legal rights or social acceptance. They put themselves in uncomfortable situations for us simply because it is the right thing to do.
Today, in honor of the man who pushed us out of the closet and into the streets, I want to honor one particular straight Ally who is out as such early, and in force.
Her name is Rina Sundahl. Rina is a senior at Southridge High School in Beaverton, OR and co-president of the school’s Gay-Straight Alliance. If her name rings a bell, it’s because she helped organize the Respect Humanity Uganda March and Rally in January to raise awareness of Uganda’s gay genocide bill. I covered that rally in posts here and here.
For her senior project Rina chose to create this gay-affirming poster. According to Oregon Live,
“Basic unfairness has an impact on all of us,” she said. “Why would I just fight for rights that affect me directly?”…Sundahl decided to combine her activism and her love of political art by producing a poster touting respect toward gays. She hoped her design — the phrase, “It’s okay to be gay,” on a pale blue background, the letters in “gay” filled with the faces of openly gay actors and musicians — might be useful for counseling centers or schools.
“We idolize celebrities so much, so I thought it might make kids think about how they treat people,” said Sundahl, the daughter of two schoolteachers. “I also really wanted to use the word ‘gay’ in a positive way.”
As you know too well, the most common use of the word “gay” in schools is in the epitaph “that’s so gay!”, implying inferiority or stupidity. The school’s reaction to Rina and her poster are after the flip.
She hung the professionally printed poster outside an art class. The vandalism began a day or two later.Someone taped paper with the words, “It’s OK to Be Straight” below the poster, then a picture of another student, the implication clear. Finally, somebody wrote “Not” between the “It’s” and “OK.”
I bet you expected that. But here is where our Ally really shines.
…Sundahl isn’t surprised that her work was defaced, despite the support many classmates showed for gay Ugandans four months ago. She’s also not unhappy about the damage, which shows a political savvy well beyond her years.“If anything, it sparked a lot of conversation at school. I’ve had people I didn’t know come up in the hall and say, ‘I’m sorry,’” she said. “It’s one thing to talk generally about gay rights. It’s another to see how dumb some people can be about it.”
Now there is an Ally! Creating room for her peers to react, think and to come on-board for equality. Rina Sundahl is my Ally of the Day. Who is yours? If you yourself are and LGBT Ally, tell us about an ally to you in other facets of your life.




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I don’t have one… I am just trying to be one.And you are right it is a process for us to come out too. May we all do it with the grace and wisdom of Rina.
Thank you Orion45!Your comment made me realize that I left out an important part of the post. I’ve added to the end: “If you yourself are and LGBT Ally, tell us about an ally to you in other facets of your life.” Just like many LGBT people are allies to other groups and interests, I’m sure that many LGBT allies receive the support of allies for their identity groups too. When that’s the case, I’d love to hear about it.
some great stuffFirst off, I must say that my favorite ally is our own Louise! And anyone who doesn’t understand why should read more of this blog.
I wanted to share something else very cool on this particular topic. The other day, I watched Oprah’s interview with newly-out country star Chely Wright. Chely’s father was in the audience and also spoke with Oprah a little bit during the show, telling about what happened when Chely came out to him. His reaction was one of unconditional love even though he had not been educated on or understanding of LGBT issues prior to that. He spoke simple but very beautiful words of love. Part of the advice he gave to other parents of LGBT people was along the lines of, “Don’t close the door. Open the heart.” Wow.
Later in the interview, Chely mentioned that she recently ran into some active-duty members of the military. She has been known for years for doing USO shows and had worried that her coming out would mean the end of her being able to do that. She said that one of the soldiers she spoke to recently said to her, “You’ve been there for us. We’ll be there for you.” Again, just wow.
There is no official online video of the interview, but someone uploaded it to YouTube anyway in three parts. I don’t know if it will stay online or not, so check it out sooner rather than later if you’re interested:
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There are many more like herI have a friend named Sherri who comes from a Mormon background. Because of her stand for GLBT equality, she has taken quite a beating from her family and friends(figuratively, not literally.) She has had friends turn against her. She has had to cut off contact with some because of the extreme negativity they were bringing to her life.
She continues to stand for our rights, posting on FB, and leading discussion panels. She is a genuinely good-hearted person. Warm, loving, generous. I thank God for her, and for the stand she continues to take for us.