When the White House comes to the defense of HRC and Joe Solmonese in particular, it’s pretty clear both parties feel under siege. In an article “HRC head gets praise, flak for Obama’s gay-rights initiatives,” by Lonnae O’Neal Parker, it’s a surreal profile with great attention to detail to fawning, with a couple of dashes of criticism — classic CYA journalism.

If you can stomach the whole thing, click to page 3 and you’ll see an unbelievable quote from the man known as “The Fixer” in the Obama admin, Jim Messina.

Jim Messina is the White House deputy chief of staff. He calls the notion that Solmonese should be calling for picket lines “bull[expletive].”

“I’ve been in Washington 15 years and have seen many different organizations, and I would rate Joe and the HRC as one of the top,” he says. “He’s been helpful in working for a shared agenda, and been honest when he disagrees, and that’s what you want — someone who gets things done and tells you when he disagrees.

Well, as you see in the right sidebar, I’m holding Joe to his promise that he made at the HRC Carolinas dinner that DADT repeal will occur in 2010. I’m sure Jim Messina knows full well what’s in store.

Besides, what else is Messina going to say? Messina is the man who sits down in private meetings with Solmonese and HRC’s David Smith and tells them how all things LGBT are going to be done, i.e., whether DADT repeal will be in the DOD authorization bill, and when and how the Obama administration is going to advocate publicly on any other policy affecting LGBTs. For Messina, Joe and David are the good gays; online and offline activists are distractions from the inside game.

That’s why the President was upset at the civil disobedience going on outside the White House yesterday — Joe, as the face of the LGBT movement on the Hill, can’t do anything to stop the grassroots actions online or off.

Solmonese can only take angry calls from the White House complaining about the “mess” activists are making and do, in some sort of Sally Field imitation and ask whether the WH still likes them.” You really, really like me?” Otherwise, access may be cut off, the champagne and cocktail invites would dry up. But this is all essential to building relationships, the collateral duties of being our advocacy org on the Hill; we shouldn’t make note of such things because this is how things get done. Be patient.

But while LGBTs in flyover country twist in the wind, waiting for basic rights, let’s be mindful of how it’s hard work making six figures, partying with Kathy Griffin, wearing Dolce and Gabbana, flying to London to talk about HRC’s achievements in the U.S., and taking criticism for the work he does for LGBTs.

He thinks he’s winning the fight over achieving gay equality, but calls the struggle bittersweet.

“There’s my standard answer: that it’s the nature of social change, and you can’t be the biggest organization in the movement and not expect that people aren’t going to aim their frustration at me.”

“It’s hard not to have it occasionally get you down and not have it occasionally hurt your feelings. If I try to filter the constructive from the non-constructive . . . I think it makes me better. And I think it makes all of us do a better job. ‘Us’ — ‘Gay Inc.,’ as it were, the people at the table — and ‘us’ — the armchair activists, bloggers and people who are engaged in civil disobedience. If it’s a meaningful exchange, I think it can’t help but make you better.”

Don’t get me wrong, we need HRC, or rather an organization that is positioned like HRC, to do effective advocacy that has the juice to push an administration to act, as we noted before about the power and push of the NRA.

I see no anger, no press releases with even faint praise for the independent grassroots activists for raising the profile of DADT repeal, garnering national MSM attention to the issue in a very personal way.

No one is asking him to handcuff himself to the WH fence, but certainly HRC can tell the President, look this is a movement of many passionate voices and all have a legitimate role to play. They are entitled to express these views — you should consider acting on that passion for equality.

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Just an FYI: The Sirius XM LGBT Leadership Town Hall is tomorrow and I’ll be in DC for the panel with  National Gay & Lesbian Task Force executive director Rea Carey; National Center for Transgender Equality executive director Mara Keisling; Human Rights Campaign president Joe Solmonese; Servicemembers Legal Defense Network executive director Aubrey Sarvis; and former Clinton White House advisor on gay rights Richard Socarides.

Joe and the Volcano

Joe Solmonese’s appearance has been a touch-and-go matter this week as he was, as I said above, in London, where the he was stranded by the result of the volcanic eruption and ash grounding air travel. Mike Signorile has informed me that Joe will appear via BBC link up (at this time I think it’s video and audio, but it’s not finalized).