crossposted on Holy Bullies and Headless Monsters
Editor's note – I changed the title of this piece to further convey the depressive funk I've been under since the situation I am talking about in this post caught my attention. I know I am wandering into dangerous territory with the headline and the subject in general. I would sincerely hope those responding here and other places that this post may appear not take the easy road to offer polarized opinions. I hope I haven't.
I went to bed depressed Tuesday night and when I rose from my troubled sleep to post on my blog, my depression hadn't abated.
It got to the point where I was considering not posting anymore. I'm still halfway considering that option.
My mental malaise started when I was looking at anti-gay Stand for Marriage site emanating from Washington, D.C.

African-American pastor Harry Jackson and a coalition of other black pastors are trying to put to put marriage equality on the ballot in DC:
Jackson sent out a statement Monday stating that he and other opponents of same-sex marriage would file an initiative request with the elections board Tuesday.
If approved by the board, the initiative would give District residents an opportunity to vote sometime next year on whether to legalize same-sex marriage in the District. Jackson, who says he believes that most city voters oppose same-sex marriage, is hoping his proposal will slow efforts by the D.C. Council to legalize those marriages
. . . In May, Jackson filed a request with the elections board to hold a referendum to block the council bill allowing same-sex marriages performed in others states to be legally recognized.
The elections board, in a strongly worded ruling, blocked Jackson's referendum request. The two-member board cited D.C. elections law, which prohibits a vote on a matter covered by the Human Rights Act. The 1977 act outlaws discrimination against gays and lesbians and other minority groups.
Jackson has affiliated himself with the group Stand For Marriage, which seems to have the tendrils of the National Organization for Marriage all over it.
What has gotten me depressed to almost the point of exhaustion is the language used on the Stand For Marriage webpage:
Marriage Matters! With wealthy gay activists mobilizing all across the country to legalize homosexual marriage, there's never been a more important time to preserve and protect marriage in the District of Columbia once and for all.
I highlighted that phrase “wealthy gay activists” for a reason. It's a code word to the African-American community for “rich gay white men.”
Black people have had to deal with negative code words throughout our entire history. From “outside agitators” to “welfare queens” to “reverse discrimination,” code words were a way for enterprising exploiters to appeal to the lower instincts of people without being overtly racist.
Or in this case, homophobic.
In the same skillful manner white racists used code words to tell people that integration and giving the African-American community the right to vote would lead to destruction of so-called pure communities and the wholesale raping of white women by “big black bucks,” Jackson and his group are implying that “rich gay white men” are trying to ruin marriage and, via osmosis, destroy the black community.
To make matters worse, one of the members of Jackson's group, Rev. Walter Fauntroy, was director of the Washington Bureau of Dr. King’s Southern Christian Leadership Conference. Fauntroy also served as D.C. Coordinator of the Historic March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom in 1963 and coordinator of the Selma to Montgomery Voting Rights March in 1965 as well as the Meredith Mississippi Freedom March in 1966.
Fauntroy has no doubt had to deal with the ugly power of “code words” in the past. Not only that, but working so closely to King means Fauntroy had to work with Bayard Rustin, an adviser to King, the main coordinator of the 1963 March on Washington, and an openly gay African-American.
Harry Jackson is an opportunist whose desire is for fame and notoriety. Fauntroy should know better.
Whether Fauntroy is aware of what's happening with the language of the site is not know. But what is apparent is that some African-Americans are attacking the lgbt community via the same tactics that were used to deny them their rights not so long ago.
And if this isn't bad enough, ultimately these African-Americans will be hurting their own people, i.e. lgbts of color.
There is a saying that goes “those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
Jackson and his group, and especially Fauntroy, proves that there are some who intentionally put themselves in this situation.
It will be my blog's three year anniversary this Sunday and this situation with Jackson's group makes me realize that sometimes no matter how hard you try to do the right thing, nothing changes.
No matter how many times you try to right the wrongs in the best way you know how, some wrongs are never righted and on top of that, new wrongs are committed.
Pretty soon, you feel like a dog chasing its tail.
And no one should have to feel like a dog.



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Sing Out Louise!These creeps must be fought tooth and nail 24/7.
i get how you feelwhen i get that way i try to back away from whatever is drawing me into the dark pool of negativity. stop your focus on this group and make yourself go find a religious group that is doing some good so you can find some balance in your view. i purposely took on a regular customer that is a reverend so that i would be regularly exposed to a good religious person and i find it helps my perspective. i wish we would all focus our energies on the good religious people and recognizing their good works than focusing on all the wrong and bad people. it would reward their good behavior and not give any energy or time to the assholes. just don’t engage with people that aren’t helping. negative attention is still attention, ask any parent. i’m sorry for your blues. i’m kind feeling that way about the whole country right now and i’m trying to find something positive to balance that view with. i just watched a woman in a wheelchair be heckled at a town hall. sigh.
Thanks, Alvin
This is just frustrating me to no end, and witnessing almost every single black person sitting in the Durham City Council venue when the Council voted to affirm marriage equality while those standing in ovation were almost all white was disheartening.
Make no mistake, during my 15 minute keynote at NC Pride I will not neglect this schism, what’s behind it (on both sides), and call for the silence to end. It’s a time to celebrate victories, but we cannot ignore what keeps holding us back.
Santayana Quote“Notable Quotations from George Santayana
‘Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.’
Life of Reason, Reason in Common Sense, Scribner’s, 1905, page 284″
Will Mark Kleinschmidt be there at NC Pride?As a town councilman in neighboring Chapel Hill (hopefully soon to be mayor), and as an openly gay elected official, and as someone who cares about death penalty issues, and who publicly supported the Racial Justice Act which recently passed in NC, maybe that can be shown as an example of building bridges. I know myself & friends were contacting our representatives in support of that legislation too.
Mark Kleinschmidt for Mayor
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I suppose it’s ignorant of me…to say that I don’t understand why this post should be “wandering into dangerous territory”, unless speaking truth is dangerous, which I suppose it is these days and in this case.
I feel powerless, frequently, these days, to do much to help our cause. I alternate between little flashes of hope and long stretches of wanting to find the safest place I can to hide and protect my family and my sanity.
Buck up AlvinAs you point out, this is nothing new in our history. However, on the other hand there are “shoots of recovery” indicating that some things have truly changed. The reality and viability of a bridge community continues to emerge. Shifting dynamically the long held realities of both the African-American, and LGBT communities. There is real dialogue beginning to grow, dialogue that includes the LGBT African-American community. Gone are the days when our families in the African-American community could recognize us to our face and deny our contribution to the community. For the LGBT community, we now have say and value that moves beyond the novelty of a fetish perspective. This is not to say that we haven’t gotten by with a little help from our friends in both communities in the past. Nevertheless, the real value of recognizing fresh minority perspectives in the LGBT community has become even more prominent after the past two election cycles. And I believe that the African-American experience is about to have that same shift in perspective. We should not forget that it was LGBT people in the African American community that fueled the hearts and minds of that community from the Harlem Renaissance to the civil rights movement.
There is no doubt we will endure the same issues surrounding race and in this case class, as advancements continue to be made. Which is probably why we have never lived by the overly simplified idea that ”those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it”. That saying appears in many different forms throughout history, but the earliest version is probably from the poet/philosopher George Santayana. Who said: “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it”. People really don’t know their history, or in the case of those so willing to slander us, they have no idea where we come from. That our hearts and our desires are as intimately intertwined with the hopes and desires of the African-American community as they are with the LGBT community. That the intimacy level we share with both communities may not give us all the answers to what we should do or where we should go, but it certainly gives us a great deal of advantage to speak to the falsehoods and lies that will most assuredly come. It was Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr who said “plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose” which has likely entered the African-American dialogue through the great amount of French-Creole influence as the English saying, “The more things change, the more they stay the same”. Now I am not saying Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr himself was gay, but as a literary writer and critic with an extreme propensity for floriculture, he did practically found the trade in cut flowers on the French Riviera. What is more important is that while the same old ghosts may rise to the fore in the same old bigoted ways among the less historically informed, there is also a great opportunity for other spirits to rise and counter these weak and unsustainable positions.
Spirits like Bayard Rustin, one of the most significant activists behind the the civil rights movement as well as one of the main organizers of the 1963 March on Washington and one of the counselors to Martin Luther King, Jr. on the techniques of nonviolent resistance. He also brokered the introduction between MLK and Malcolm X. The Harlem Renaissance had a profound impact not only on African-American culture but on the entire African Diaspora. It is one easily documentable point in time when the African-American LGBT experience played no small part in influencing the entire planet. Spirits like Alain Locke, Jessie Fauset, Langston Hughes, Alice Dunbar-Nelson, Wallace Thurman, Countee Cullen, Nella Larsen, Zora Neale Hurston, Angelina Grimké, Georgia Douglas Johnson, and Richard Bruce Nugent….Anyway, ‘nough said. What is important is not what the limited minds of propagandists blowhards say of anyone in the news today, but how we will answer them from the ghosts of our past present and our future. We have aple evidence that there is indeed much to hope for in our cause.
The thing is…like everyone else, black people are not REQUIRED to agree on every issue. There are black Americans that are opposed to LGBT issues. So be it. Not everyoone is going to see every struggle as equivalent.
Its you job to win them over, just as black Americans had to win over many whites.
Furthermore, you cannot ignore the fact that most of the voices both bashing the President on LGBT isues and clamoring for SSM ARE RICH WHITE MEN. The only reason they can even get away with that meme is because that’s the message, intentional or not, that the LGBT leadership has been presenting to the country at large. Furthermore, the argument is based on the idea that marriage is a high priority for black (or POC) LGBT folks. There is some evidence that of the issues that we are concerned about, marriage is one of the least important to the majority of us.
This is not about forgetting history…plenty of people do just that. The issue is that people want to believe that one opressed minority has the obligation to support the struggles of others. That has never been true. People do not always see the struggles of others as equivalent to their own. When you’ve got people struggling to get by day to day, in often economically depressed and crime ridden areas…it should not be difficult to understand why they don’t feel alot of empathy for a bunch of rich urban white guys who despite their “oppression” live better lives (and have way more influence) than they ever will.
Jackson Is No Different Than A Racist Or Neo-NaziJust for spreading the propaganda that gay people are somehow “wealthy”, he’s no different than the Nazi’s spreading the propaganda that all Jews were elite and wealthy.
Not to mention he’s no different than the ugly racists depicting all black people as on welfare, or hispanics as vermin trying to take over America.
“Bishop” Harry Jackson must be really proud of himself for being no different than all them.
“RICH WHITE MEN”“Furthermore, you cannot ignore the fact that most of the voices both bashing the President on LGBT isues and clamoring for SSM ARE RICH WHITE MEN. The only reason they can even get away with that meme is because that’s the message, intentional or not, that the LGBT leadership has been presenting to the country at large. Furthermore, the argument is based on the idea that marriage is a high priority for black (or POC) LGBT folks. There is some evidence that of the issues that we are concerned about, marriage is one of the least important to the majority of us.”
Gee, are you saying that many of the black preachers are not wealthy? Are you saying that many of the anti-gay, homophobic, black leaders are not wealthy (or really well off)?
In addition, don’t you think many of the WHITE anti-gay leaders are also wealthy? Many are well off simply because of their anti-gay movements – it’s their life work (along with denying the equality of women – oh wait, most of the white AND black “religious leaders” also subscribe to that).
“RICH WHITE MEN” is a strawman – ”RICH WHITE LESBIAN WOMEN” is another strawperson – witness what’s happened to Annie Leibovitz simply because she could not marry her partner – she might be ruined for life, AND lose control of all her work.
Does it “serve her right” because she was in a same sex relationship? Does the fact she was “rich” make it O.K.?
How about all the NOT-rich gay and lesbian folks that took advantage of the right to marry? Don’t you think a lot of gay and lesbian POC would be better off if they could marry and have a stable RECOGNIZED relationship?
The entire God-damned world is run by “RICH WHITE MEN” – look at the mess they have made for the rest of us – if a few of them are gay, and happen to work to improve the lot of regular gay and lesbian folks, why in the world would you complain?
Also, why support all the preachers who support the current power structure, black and white?
No matter what they do, you will never be a dog.I do know how awful it feels to watch people disappoint you so. I feel it too when I read through the news blogs, over health care reform, over marriage equality.
Just driving down the street. I was driving behind an expensive new Audi last week, with a sticker on the back that said “Fuck Fair”. I felt such despair for everything that bit of plastic implied.
The only thing that gets me through is remembering that I can only do what I can do, and I am responsible for the work of my own hands, and they are responsible for theirs.
Still, it sucks. I’m sorry.
BTW AlvinDon’t be getting depressed on us!
IMO you’re one of the top 10 most effective GLBT activists of all time in my book.
If Peter LaBarbera is calling you a “twit” and stalking you around, you must be doing SOMETHING right! LOL
addendumThe “outside agitators” argument was also made during the Civil Rights Struggles – according to the Southern White Power Structure in place at that time it was a bunch of “ousiders”, Jews, and a small minority of disgruntled “Negroes” (AKA: “darkies”, etc., etc., etc., etc.) who formed the Civil Rights Movement.
Whoops – I almost forgot “The Communists” – it would be “The End Of The World As We Know It” (AKA: TEOTWAWKI in right wing speech) if any sort of equal rights were established.
Right now many of the “Black Preachers” sound like a version of “Bull” Conners, or The White Citizens Council folks back in “The Bad Old Days” (not to be confused with “The Bad Current Days”).
Now, I know there are no parallels between the fight for civil rights among POC and those of lesbian and gay folks (yeah, right!) – BUT – do you really want to SOUND just like those folks did way back when?
I think you missed the point…The only reason that they can get away with their message is because it has a kernal of truth that resonates with their followers.
Few of the church going black folks that will hear their message are likely to feel any sympathy, let alone a sense of shared struggle with a bunch of rich white guys that generally don’t know a damn thing about what it really means to struggle. These preachers are well aware that their message will resonate with people that have larger life concerns.
You cannot really expect people worried about jobs, health care, educations, crime etc to have any concern for the rich white guys that are typically indifferent to and largely exempt from the basic life concerns that causes them stress.
LGBT leaders have largely failed to counter that impression because most of the LGBT leaders are themselves rich white men. I work in PR, and I can tell you, those guys are not sympathetic to John and Jane Q Public to say nothing of most working class minorities. If those are the spokespeople for the LGBT “struggle” then its doomed to fail.
Supreme Court ruling will be the outreach necessaryBecause the LGBT Civil Rights movement is fundamentally about the right to be sexual, it’s hard for the larger public, no matter what race or class, to see that as a moral issue. They have to be educated that sexual orientation is immutable, and natural for some people and not be changed. Who has the job to educate them ? It was the courts that brought on the Civil Rights Act of 64. That was the outreach to the bigots. A Supreme Court ruling making sexual orientation a suspect class, like skin color, sexual orientation cannot be the basis for discrimination.
When it become illegal to discriminate against LGBT’s, that will shut up homobigots like Jackson.
The Olson Boies legal case is addressing this sexual orientation immutable trait by bringing in expert witnesses in their case. Wish them luck.
no, no group is monolithic
No, no one said it was only about marriage — it’s about civil equality for LGBTs, including LGBTs of color. It doesn’t have to be a top priority, but it doesn’t have to be buried or opposed on the basis of the arguments being presented (religion) either.
You’re Right About ThatAnd that makes me sick: I don’t want Joe Solmonese or anyone like him representing me. I’ve already said here before that I’d rather have an average “Roseanne & Dan Connor” type representing me. Solmonese is spoiled, and if I were uneducated, I’d be thinking all gays were spoiled just like him.
Gay people want rich nice-looking white people representing them, even though no matter how big of a hundred dollar millionaire front they put on, they’re no different or more wealthy than all the other Dan & Roseanne Connor’s in this country.
Ground keeps shifting, eh?For the longest time you were arguing that it was only conservatives who were criticizing Obama, and that the rest of us were just following their lead. Apparently we’ve finally managed to convince you that isn’t that case, so you found a new bogeyman, “rich white men.” That is equally bogus.
Obama has been in office for nine months and has done virtually nothing except continue Bush’s policies. Not just the anti-gay stuff but ALL OF IT–mountaintop clearing, “clean coal,” the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, domestic spying, cash giveaways to corporations, government bribes to churches… Just name a villainous Bush policy and Obama has decided to continue it.
Just as it wasn’t hard to come up with lists of prominent longtime liberals who are critical of this administration, it isn’t hard to come up with people who don’t fit your latest meme. Or do you think Maureen Dowd, Rachel Maddow, Laura Flanders and all the others are really “rich white men”? In case you haven’t noticed, the Wall Street bankers and brokers, the Big Pharma crowd, the health insurance companies–all of them run by rich white men–are absolutely nuts about this president.
Spot on…The most important thing that the LGBT community FAILED to take away from the civil rights movement was that the most effective leaders were members of the community. They were not always the most educated or well groomed for the position. They, however, could relate to the everyday struggles that people experienced.
One of the biggest differences between the LGBT movement and the Civil Rights movement is that by and large, black people were gettig grief no matter where they were on the social/economic spectrum. A graduate of Howard, A Tuskeegee airman, a religous leader, a steel worker or hs dropout were all likely to experience horrendous treatment at the hands of larger society. The economic stratification was limited largely by society. In essence, you could not buy your way out of racism. That type of shared struggle ultimately gave the movement strength and a common sense of purpose and riteous anger against injustice. Conversely there was no notion of abandoing your basic civil rights for a tax cut. In fighting happens but by and large everyone is moving in the same direction.
That is NOT the case in the LGBT community. It is divided along gender/sex, racial and economic lines. The amount of flack you take for being LGBT, or you ability to get around it, is directly proportional to your race, sex, gender identity, education level, and economic status (not to mention looks). Depending on where you fall you might not even get support from other members of the community and might actually face outright hostility.
The LGBT movement has for quite a while presented a very narrow view of itself to the American public. At times it has been intentionally narrow (to the point that the T folks usually go unseen). The end result is that most Americans, across all racial/ethnic lines has a very limited idea of what it means to be LGBT. Now it needs popular support and is struggling against the very image it helped (and continues0 to perpetuate.
AlvinThose who worked with Dr. King and knew Baynard Rustin, may have approved Baynard purposely staying out of the limelight, so that his being a gay man didn’t deflect attention from the cause. They might only be able to cope with silent queers.
Well that time has passed, and whether they like it or not, we’re done being silent.
Sorry these issues are taking a toll on depressing you. Maybe focus on some lighter matters til you feel ready to recoup and fight another day. I can get too upset myself, the Pastor Steven L Anderson making death threats, was pushing all my buttons just a couple days ago, and I had almost a frantic effort to bring attention to it, cuz I feared the unspeakable murders would take place if the pressure wasn’t pushed continually.
LGBT’s below 40 are spoiledCan you imagine Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks putting emphasis that donations to the Selma/Montgomery march would be tax exempt? Equality Across America think they need a tax deductible incentive. Passionate people don’t need a tax exemption in order to march for a cause they believe in deeply.
Your memoryis SERIOUSLY faulty. I’ve never said that “only conservatives” attacked Obama. In fact, I’ve talked repeatedly about the circular firing squad. Indeed, I’ve mentioned the dearth of voices in the LGBT community on numerous occasions on a wide array of issues.
The right wing has lost its fraking mind and is totally unrelated to anything that I just wrote.
Carpetbagger Jackson is playing lackey to the white Catholic Church and Mormonstough being a suck-up carpetbagger selling out to “the man” I suppose. Difficult to have allies like the LDS who still believe that Jackson will come back as a slave in the afterlife…
His new allies, the evangelical white rightare anti-immigrant too…anything that strengthens them hurts Hispanics.
…Alvin, from one fixed-income white, disabled, trans woman veteran to an African-American gay man, it was an important read for me.
Historically, the tie-in of Rev. Walter Fauntroy to this story is significant. And, that’s in how it shows an example of how once broad-minded appearing people can sometimes turn civil right movements into it’s-about-me-and-people-like-me civil rights movements.
When we don’t see civil rights as human rights, I believe we all fail.
Right and WrongOn one hand, black straight people are…well, straight people. I don’t understand why folks don’t get that.
On the other hand, spare me the black victimology, please. I get so, so tired of the my po’ black ass meme.
They are making me a little depressed too peteybut it’s no longer enough for black LGBT’s to simply come out. We have to counter these racist (yes, I said racist) homobigots like Jackson, James Meeks, and those of their ilk in the black community.
Well, Maura some black people would not mind thatSeriously.
In some ways, I get even angrier about anti-Hispanic sentiments in the black community than I do anti-gay sentiments. After all, anti-Hispanic sentiment is RACISM and a number of Hispanic can (and do ) have black heritage.
From retired (e.g. code word for fixed income), white, straigt ally…..I agree.But we can't let them win Alvin. Will you be going to the NEM? or have your group represented there? I certainly hope so.
So….no dancin’ today guys?That was cute yesterday.
I have no argument with this
Dancing is good for the soulAll the other posters here can join on the last open thread what gets their butts out on a dance floor? Or at least sets their toes tapping, for those who won’t dance.
Today I’m haulin’ hoses around the yard, we haven’t had rain for quite some time, and the yard is showing some stress.
Believe me Mormons love love love having a Black man spew their sh*tcuz they have damn few of their own to pick from.
The Mormons I know of in Utah are rabidly anti-Latino too.
I Don’t Know What You’re Talking AboutGOING, GOING, GOING, GOING, GOING, GOING, GOING, GOING…..
<—- moving to “Goin’ Places” by The Jacksons.
Fuck what Harry Jackson has to say!
WellAlvin didn’t really claim that black people, or any other identifiable social grouping, are “required” or “obligated” to agree on any issue. He was just attempting to work through the issue of homophobia within the African-American community, which some observers perceive to be more statistically prevalent than in the wider population and/or to manifest itself in distinct forms unique to this part of the population. And even if it can’t be claimed that all minority groups are “obligated” to stand in solidarity for any cause of any minority, I still think there’s enough irony and factual equivalence, in these particular struggles, to support at least a substantial discussion.
And as for the “rich white men” angle, one could make a credible argument that the only reason so many SSM activists seem to be “rich white men” owes to current, and the lingering effects of past, socioeconomic discrimination. (I.e., racism over decades —> rich white men disproportionately represented in the most vocal, influential positions in media and high-level political activism). This makes for an especially confounding irony when some well-known, respected African-American voices attempt to shoot down SSM as a “white thing”: a minority that has faced huge amounts of discrimination is helping to work against the queer people of color in their own midst.
Well that andthe particular arguments that black ministers are deploying is what alvin is highlighting
I very much hope…That you’ll be posting video and a transcript online.
Upsets me as a sort of Hispanicsince my last citisenship prior to coming to the states was Spanish and I feel a kinship…
The movement began with street peopleIt inspired the middle-class.
After these two groups did all the heavy-lifting the upper-middle class came and took over — as if they had been there all along.
Prove it. Less important than ENDA and hate crimes? OK. But do you really think that more PoC would personally gain from the repeal of DADT than from the repeal of DOMA?
Kevin…As has been well documented, lets not forget that that has been a two way street. The “black brown” divide is well established and even became an issue in the election.
Duh…like I didn’t know thatlike I didn’t know that there were Latinos that were quite bold in saying that they wouldn’t vote for Obama because he was black…
I said that I get angry about the anti-Latino racism in the black community and of course I would feel likewise. Racism isn’t a tit-for-tat thing
so many logical fallacies…First, you seem oblivious to the irony that you are insisting that “LGBT leaders” (whoever THEY are) are “rich white guys that are typically indifferent to and largely exempt from the basic life concerns…” on the board of a lesbian woman of color who lives and works at a regular job in a mid-sized southern city with a majority non-white population.
If anyone in this country is an “LGBT leader,” Pam Spaulding is one. And she’s about as far from a “rich white guy” as anyone could be. So your argument falls a bit flat right there.
Who are these “rich white guys” you consider to be “LGBT leaders?” Nobody asked this white lesbian to vote for my “LGBT leader.” We don’t have a Queer Pope. There’s no doctrinal writ being passed down as the Word of the Gay God that we’re all supposed to follow. That’s what the right-wing astroturf script says, that every morning every queer person in America gathers around our fax machines for that day’s Gay Agenda Talking Points – you don’t actually believe that, do you?
We don’t have leaders. Every LGBT person is on our own with this, and the LGBT who are poor or people of color or otherwise disenfranchised struggle just as much as their straight counterparts, with the additional burden of being gay.
Regarding marriage, you may view it as a pointless frill, but don’t forget that there is a health care and economic crisis in this country. Our access to health care is closely linked to employment with a large corporation or government organization, or being legally married to somebody who is employed by one of those organizations. There are millions of ordinary GLBT in this country (not just the rich white male ones) without access to health care simply because they’ve been laid of or are self-employed or employed with a small business or organization that can’t afford to offer a plan to their employees. Straight married people have the option of being covered by their spouse’s employer’s health care plans, and this literally means the difference between life and death for millions upon millions of straight people. This option is flatly denied to the vast majority of gay people, even those in long-term committed relationships that by every moral criteria count as marriage – except legally. And then there are those 1,000 other rights afforded by marriage that are denied to gay people – rights that would be very, very helpful to the poor and disenfranchised.
It’s simply wrong to state that marriage doesn’t matter to the poor. In the U.S., marriage can literally be the difference between life and death. For this reason, equal marriage is of crucial importance to LGBT people who are other than affluent.
gentrification contributing to tension?I posted a diary discussing this in more detail. If blacks are being displaced and priced out of their neighborhood by white gentrifiers, and those gentrifiers are white LGBTs, there’s a significant source of conflict beyond the religious/”ick” factor.