crossposted on Holy Bullies and Headless Monsters
What if you gave a press conference attacking the President of the United States and no one showed up, especially the media?
What if you sue a major hotel chain and no one cares, except for those who oppose you and they only take note to laugh at you?
Such is the lot of self-proclaimed anti-gay activist Peter LaBarbera.
One thing that the lgbt community doesn't seem to be giving that much attention to (with the planning of marches, fighting against anti-gay marriage laws, etc.) is the rapid and continued fall of LaBarbera from steadfast anti-gay activist to man with a serious problem.
The bio on his Americans for Truth webpage brags about his participation in groups such as Concerned Women for America, the Family Research Council, and his short stint as leader of the Illinois Family Institute.
It also talks about how many times he was interviewed by the national media and show such as James Dobson's Focus on the Family.
LaBarbera has gone from those so-called extreme highs to the lowest of low – featuring obscene pictures on his webpage.
Those pictures are what he is known for. They are why he is referred to in some circles as “Porno Petey.”
No matter how many changes and nuances the religious right goes through, the lgbt community can always count on LaBarbera to attend leather events and “street fairs” with his camera, looking for “filthy images” to publicize on his webpage as an example of the so-called real face of lgbt America. And he always makes sure to give “loving detail” to the acts featured in the pictures.
I'm not one to usually make psychological judgements on people, so don't hold it against me when I call LaBarbera a living breathing Freudian slip.
I would love to know how many have looked on LaBarbera's page and moved from disgust over the pictures to wondering just what is in the mind of the person who took the pictures.
I guess it's better than wondering how many folks looked at LaBarbera's page in attempts to “pleasure themselves.” I'm sure there are some of those out there.
LaBarbera is also a perfect example of how stridency can backfire. Uusually when someone falls in the mud, they lift themselves up and try to wipe the mud from their bodies.
LaBarbera has not only remained in the mud, but he has taken the iniative to rub it all over clean parts of his body.
And it is having an effect on his reputation amongst his peers, whether they want to admit it or not.
LaBarbera claims to have spent many, many years fighting the alleged gay agenda but it was the hate group Mass Resistance that was invited to lead a workshop on this so-called agenda during next month's conservative conference, Take Back America.
Also, notice how quickly another anti-gay spokesperson, Matt Barber, has moved up in the religious right food chain.
Barber has gone from fired AllState employee to a spokesperson of Concerned Women for America, to a “dean” at the conservative Liberty University and a promiment position at the equally conservative Liberty Counsel. And to top it off, every now and then, he writes a column for the widely read Town Hall.
And all the while this was happening, the most LaBarbera has accomplished is to fish for donations for his Americans for Truth webpage.
LaBarbera is an embarrassment to the religious right. He is their “Bull Connor,” throwing a monkey wrench into their fascade of “love the sinner, but hate the sin.”
The only places he is taken seriously is One News Now (which probably publishes his comments out of pity), various conservative blogs (which are as strident as he), and blogs like mine, Goodasyou.org and Pams House Blend (in actuality, we don't take him that seriously. He is good for a laugh or pointing out the hypocrisies of the religious right).
Deep down, I like LaBarbera . . . as a relic.
No matter how bad things seem, his bleatings and single minded attempts of “digging deep” into the so-called gay subculture is a reminder of how far we have come as a people. And provides a good laugh amongst me and my friends.
But by no means should the lgbt community dance on LaBarbera's grave. LaBarbera is inflicted with that type of steadfast crazy seen only in horror movies where the monster continues to stalk even after being shot, stabbed, karated, etc.
In other words, he doesn't know when to quit and he doesn't know when or how to change. The lgbt community might as well get used to it and work it for our own purposes.
But all in all, I envision a future where LaBarbera is an old man sitting on a stoop somewhere, his body bent and quivering with age (and hopefully his chin drooling unwiped spittle and corn mush) while muttering about those “damn homosexuals.”
Mentally, I think he is already there.
UPDATE – Peter answers my email by calling me “obsessed” and a “twit.”




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At this pointI almost feel pity. He needs to go ahead and climb in a sling like he obviously dreams of, or (I suspect) just come clean about what he already does and stop mentally degenerating from the guilt and shame.
One quibbleI hate to quibble with an item that makes an astute – and accurate – observation such as:
However, I worry that:
can be read as implying that being a “steadfast anti-gay activist” (I won’t mention Maggie Gallagher by name) isn’t a “serious problem.”
Leave us not forgetPete began his career as a self-proclaimed “Ex-Gay.” How “Ex” can you be when you keep going back to Folsom with your video camera and putting porno pics up on your site?
WHAT?!?! THIS GUY IS EX-GAY?!?!?(MOUTH DROPS TO THE FLOOR) ROFLOL!!!
I had no idea! That is about the funniest thing I have heard all day. I guess he doesn’t realize that Christians from the ex-gay movement that don’t remain in the ex-gay movement, can usually expect to be ostracized at a level that would make a a child-molesting priest feel welcome in a Muslim community. Conservatives don’t play about stuff like that and the fact that he goes to so many events that most gays wouldn’t go to like Folsom is so very telling and pitiful.
The self hateReading his writings and seeing pictures of him makes me sad. He’s really off his rocker.
I’ve known others who have gone that route, just not far enough to become an anti-gay activist. What a tortured soul… his only outlet is NSA hookups on craigslist. I’m sure afterwards he bashes himself relentlessly.
WHA..?Petey’s an ex-gay? Is there proof of this, like an article he wrote talking about his “conversion” therapy? I wouldn’t doubt it for a minute, he’s such an obvious self-loathing closet case, but is there publicly available information confirming this?
I’m with onthesea on this one. I just feel sorry for this sad little man who has wasted his life making homemade porn and mentally flagellating himself for enjoying it. What a dreary existence.
He and Brian Camenkerneed to just retire from the scene together and open a nice cozy porn shop somewhere and live happily ever after.
If you dig back far enough in Petey’s wriitngs and suchyou’ll discover he’s an “Ex-Gay.” That’s where I first head of him.
proof?If anybody could locate the information that Porno Pete is an “ex-gay” for us all, that would be great! Thanks! David
One thing about these religious right wingers, They don’t have the guts to enter in an open honest debate. NOM’s Brian and Maggie will go on the news shows and such, but all they do is shout over everyone else. A tactic that has failed at the town hall gatherings. But Porno Pete is a real special case who needs serious help. He attacks like there is no tomorrow, but can’t back up any of his claims. He thought his niche in the rabid right wing would be to expose the actions of those in the BDSM and leather community and claim all these actions are just done by Teh Gays.
I have said before, he is out to try and make a buck hating Teh Gays.
That brings a whole new dimension Wow. If that’s true, then no wonder he’s so virulent.
That brings a whole new dimension Wow. If that’s true, then no wonder he’s so virulent.
We should throw Petey a virtual PITY PARTYVirtual, because he just doesn’t merit the energy to leave home, or put on clothes over. He just needs the sting of being ridiculed, over and over and over.
Alvin McEwan…..the REAL American for Truth!
How dare Peter say you’re “obsessed”! LOL
Being obsessed means you think about something in particular all the time. Being obsessed means you can’t have a conversation without bringing your obsession up.
The only time most of us here mentions Peter (in real life) is when we’re talking about homophobes with our friends, gay or straight. And don’t flatter yourself, Peter – it’s not often. But your mention ALWAYS brings on the laughing and screams of disbelief.
It’s safe to say the majority of us talks about Peter here or on our own blogs, but when we sign off the internet, we’ve got better things to do. Shopping, hanging out with friends, cuddling with the kitties, whatever. Unlike Peter, we’re not going to grab a camera and go to some sleazy private sex club trying to “expose the homosexual agenda”.
Nobody knows obsession like Peter LaBarbera. And stalkers.
I Can Dig ItI interpret line #2 as more or less saying Peter has let his obsession eat him from the inside-out. He’s so obsessed with being obsessed that he’s went from a simple anti-gay activist to actually living and breathing homosex, from the moment he wakes up every day, all the way to bedtime. Next day, same pattern. Next day, same pattern. Over and over.
EEEWWWWW!!!!!!I may not eat for days now!
So Porno-Pete’s a so called “ex-gay”.I always said he was a closet case, but I had no idea it went this far. Give me some time to stop laughing.
Massive doses of electro-shock or a lobotomyWould explain so much about Petey….so much.
Wouldn’t Surprise Me5 kids, just like my closet case cousin.
And like Peter, his wife was popping out babies left and right, as soon as there was a woman out there stupid enough to sleep with him. Babies he couldn’t afford to be having – just to push himself further back in the closet.
And now unfortunately they have a hard time making ends meet.
As if having a truckload of kids proves your straightness! LOL
I still want to see evidenceThat he’s actually an ex-gay. I’ve never come across that information. It would have to go back before his days at the IFI.
I do remember seeing an article mentioning thisAnd it was published by a right-wing outfit with which LaBarbera was affiliated. It goes back way before his days at IFI. Possibly FRC, CWFA, etc. Timeframe would have been 1992 – 2002, possibly earlier. Somehow, Bob Knight’s name comes into my memory of it.
I may be wrong, but I believe at one time he was based in the Washington DC area. He then relocated to the Chicago area, possibly to work at IFI (?). Even back then, I was struck by the use of hyperbole in his writings.
Pam, I’ll see if I can do some more research (no, not LaBarbera’s type of “research”) and e-mail any findings to you. Hope you’re feeling better.
I typed in “ex-gay” and peter labarbera in googleI mostly came up with anti gay stuff but there were a couple of articles that did mention it. But all I saw was the accusation itself and not any evidence that he was (the articles were from this year) so I didn’t post any links to them.
Could Be Like Stacy HarpIf you remember her, she’s also told people that she’s “ex-gay” (or “struggles with so-called SSA”), only to later deny it.
It’s also possible that he shopped around an “ex-gay story” about himself, trying to get on Exodus International’s payroll – but was too old and not cute enough for the role.
I do know Petey has taken about three “ex-gay” poster boys under his wingThey all fell off the wagon and went back to being gay boys. I’ve never read he was ex-gay himself.
I must admit, I’d rather he was creepy straight, than creepy ex-gayThe alternative makes me all queezy.
I wonder if as a class action lawsuit, we could have him declared a gay stalker?That would tickle me if he had a court order to stay 500 yards from any LGBT person.
Wade Richards Tattled On Himhttp://www.glreview.com/issues…
Laura Kiritsy reported on a meeting between LaBarbera and Wade Richards, a former ex-gay convert (got that?) who was visiting the IFI office for the first time. LaBarbera offered to give Richards a tour and brought him to a room that was “filled with gay porn.” There were also two “leather daddy” outfits on the wall, which he was told were customized with hidden cameras so that LaBarbera could go undercover to gay S & M events and snap photos unnoticed.
So, in other words, Peter LaBarbera tried to seduce this “ex-gay” Wade Richards by showing him his gay porn collection (seducing a man with porno – the oldest trick in the book! LOL) – and instead of becoming his fuck buddy, he turned “ex-ex-gay”.
If THAT isn’t a major rejection slap in the face, I don’t know what IS! LOL
I do know that ever since then, Peter will occasionally throw out the accusation that Wayne Besen made Richards “ex-ex-gay” – which is nothing more than his trickery and lying. If you had the choice between Peter LaBarbera and Wayne Besen, who’s more attractive? WAYNE!!! But it’s not like Wade hooked up with Wayne or anything.
Peter’s just mad that he got shot down in flames. Rejection happens, get over it. Dust yourself off and try again with another guy – it’s not THAT hard to get laid!
I Would…..But beings I live in TX, I’ve got something better:
Show up on my doorstep, and somebody’ll be flying backwards, head over heels. With a bullet in their face.
Teabag THAT!